This morning I caught my DD checking “The School That Shall Not Be Named” acceptance portal…she told me she checks it every morning. (So good to know it is not just me!)
Mom" “I thought you had decided on TAMU”.
DD: “I still want to know if I was accepted, geesh. Besides I can still change my mind before May 1st right?”
Congratulations to all those with final decisions made! This has been quite a journey… and I have learned so much here following along in the sidelines mostly… and get to do it 3 more times with my 3 boys … oh boy…
Love to read all the love for Pitt… still highly in play for DD… kinda that first love, first college visit, first acceptance… Also really liking the program and opportunities at University of Rochester so time will tell…
We have a whirlwind weekend end of March with a revisit to U of R on March 30 for accepted students day then head to Pitt for full day scholarship interview on April 2 (fingers and toes crossed on that one for sure)…
Wildcards with last 3 acceptances waiting on… all total crap shoot in my opinion… University of Chicago, Northwestern, Princeton… but given that acceptance only a maybe and any merit support is highly unlikely puts all 3 out of range…
Think we have eliminated Miami of Ohio and William and Mary… both great schools but feeling not best fit…
Feels like a roller coaster…
Ugh, you mean I have to do this all over again?
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@3scoutsmom, How exciting for your S. What an awesome opportunity for him!!! Congratulations!
@labegg I can’t wait to find out one way or the other what " “The School That Shall Not Be Named” is, 
First, congratulations to all those whose kids and parents have acceptances. My S has been accepted to Amherst College and UCSB so far; waiting to hear back from a few Ivies, a NESCAC and a couple of UCs. My S is so patient…and it is driving me crazy :)). I have been taking a back seat and relying on his level head throughout the process. We also have track and cross country in the mix opportunities to further muddle the picture. I am hoping a school and/or a coach will step up and make this a clear cut decision. We are blessed to have options!
No mourning yet - have no clue where DS18 is going! We are waiting on a bunch of schools and will be planning trips during the week he is off (first week of April). We likely will do more than 3 since some may be in California and easy for us to get to. We tentatively have plans to see Case Western, Purdue, and ASU Barrett. I can’t believe how many schools we have yet to hear from and need to understand that and the financial offers. As others have said, April will be crazy!
DiegoDad1 - I can relate - my S seems more patient/calm than I do!
Love seeing the new avatars, I think that’s what they are called, from those who have chosen!
Congratulations to everyone who has chosen or even narrowed it down.
We are waiting on a bunch, including some of those infamous March 28 schools. I feel like it is becoming more stressful, not less. I watch the conversations and thought process you all are having about decisions and I think how stressful it will be when we only have 30 days to do last visits and accepted student days and sort it all out. I mean really?! Who’s great idea was it to have acceptances come out last days of March and you have to commit May 1? I’d like to give that person a piece of my mind!
I have no clue how many schools D will be accepted to and how many she will want to visit. I only know we realistically can’t do more than 3 in the month of April.
D got an early write acceptance to Smith College. I had the great idea of having her visit and do an overnight there in late March so we can save April for those 11th hour acceptances (praying of course that there are some). I realized that while she was accepted to Smith we have no idea of financial aid or scholarship. So now I may be sending D off to do a deeper dive into Smith with the possibility that she comes back and we find out it is NFW. Ugghhh!!
And like others I am way more stressed about this than D. She wants to just put it out of her mind until word comes. To that end she won’t check portals. Yesterday she insisted that if anything has changed on a portal she gets an email telling her to check it. Hope she’s right about that!
As for emails or word from the schools: crickets
Like a couple of the other ED parents, I’m kind of curious about the other schools that had been on my D’s list and whether she would have gotten into any, and if so, which ones. She had applied EA to 2 schools, but we read the ED contract as saying that you had to withdraw from everywhere else IMMEDIATELY upon receiving the ED acceptance.
Because of all the talk on CC about Yield, I figured that part of the immediacy was to protect the yield of the EA schools. So we never found out about those 2 EA schools. I’m particularly curious about the one that was a really crazy reach school because my D absolutely slayed the essays and the interview. I’m not saying this to boast (she had other schools where her essays were really lame and her interviews were just so-so), it’s that this school’s prompts happened to be ideal for her.
I’d really love to be a fly on the wall in the AOs room as they are discussing the merits of each application, and how much they really weight each factor.
One thing that is really obvious to me now: if a kid is going to apply ED, he/she better really love the school and have no FOMO or regrets come spring. Luckily for me, my D is still thrilled and it’s only me that is curious.
No regrets or mourning here, much to my surprise. Just a few months ago, D had three schools that she absolutely loved. She dreaded having to potentially choose between the three. As the process went on and D did some more detailed research on what the schools offer, it became very clear that one was the obvious best choice for her. She still wants to see if she was accepted to the reach school, but she is All In on McGill! Makes my heart happy that she is so confident about her choice.
I am in the “wish I could know” if she would have gotten into some of the other schools she applied to but since she applied ED and we weren’t waiting for FA she rescinded her applications. Although, maybe I don’t want to know if she would have gotten into USC since she would have had 1/2 NMF scholarship at least and current school doesn’t give much for NMF.
Wouldn’t it be nice if acceptances and denials at holistic review schools came with a note as the why or why not an applicant got a specfifc decision?
I think it would be so helpful!
@labegg I can’t agree with you more!
@labegg @stemmmm it is similar to a hiring decision. Too many applicants view stated reason for rejecting them as an opening to a discussion where the applicant tries to change the hiring manager’s mind and argue with their decision. Add emotionally charged teens and high stakes, affluent parents with lawyers on speed dial, and you’ll realize why this will never happen.
I know it won’t happen, I just said wouldn’t it be nice! @Twicer 
I cannot even begin to fathom the uproar that getting a “this is why you were not chosen” letter, would create. Oh my…
I’m an Accounting/HR manager by profession - for fun and to get off my butt, I work part time at a local grocery store. There is no way in heck I would want to be the one to draft such a letter. I work with a ton of youngin’s and several things I have noted working with them is they have no fear. They will question anything and everything. There is no such thing in their world as “know your place” if it affects them in any way, they have no issue demanding to be heard. They seek exceptions, explanations and want to know all the why’s. Its been quite an adjustment for me as I am well trained in employee practices etc but Post-Millennials are giving us all a run for our money.
I don’t want this to sound negative, I think Post Millennials are one of the most loving, caring and accepting of any generation. They will be the generation that will change the world as they are not afraid to speak up but for us older folks, the adjustments are a constant challenge.
@labegg a simple “this is the reason why you did not get any merit” would do for us. LOL!!!
Not in mourning around here. But for sure interesting to see how the process played out and the mind game that it played… By the end of the day, we are glad that we applied to 8 schools. Lots of surprises along the way.
Wow! So much good news on here - - what an amazing group. @DiegoDad1 and @swtaffy904 Congratulations!
@labegg - wouldn’t it be great to get the recipe for the secret sauce?
@swtaffy904 - I would encourage your D to check portals. S18 nearly missed a deadline to apply for Ithaca Honors College because they updated portal with no email or snail mail. Now I remind him to check in at least every other day. Plus, for colleges that track interest, it could help. I’m sure they keep stats on how often you access the portal or click on their emails.
Still waiting on the other 3 scholarship results. I called the local (diocese) one and they said we should know within 2 weeks. The others will notify in May. Then we’ll pursue parent plus for the remaining balance if need be.
Furman sent a classy letter to S, thanking him for notifying Furman of his decision not to attend. They wished him well at his chosen college. Furman didn’t have to send a letter but it was nice that they did.