I asked this on another board tonight, but is anyone in “mourning” over any schools left behind? We spend so much time trying to like/love/embrace multiple schools so as not to put all eggs in one basket, and as a security blanket in case other schools don’t work out. You inevitably become attached to some. Then, there is usually no, one perfect school, so you mourn certain qualities in others.
For us it’s UCF. Feels like such a huge missed (financial) opportunity. Hard to beat a NMF full ride. However, if the distance isn’t workable you have to know your limitations and not be in denial about lack of fit, for whatever reason.
Here’s hoping all of our kiddos end up where they belong. Cheers and good luck to all!
Yes @Kayak24!!! SO much mourning! Actually I feel like this is going to be a 2nd period of mourning for me. I went through it during app time too, as she peeled one after another off the list she was even applying to. Now same thing, except I’m getting to know the schools even better, with visits, etc. She’s got 4 contenders left. I’ve mostly gotten over those she’s already discarded, but of the 4 she has left… it’s gonna be tough to say good-bye to 3 of them. Some more than others for sure.
I guess I get a 2nd chance in 4 years with D22 though, right? =))
Good luck at my Alma Mater @burghdad I’m sending all the Blue Hen vibes to your daughter that she gets one of those amazing scholarships. I am biased but I know she is incredibly deserving!! And although our journey with Udel wasn’t the best, it’s still very near and dear to my heart so I’d love to see one of our CC family end up there!!
@kayak24 I know exactly how you feel. Especially as we see the offers and scholarships and financials. Hang in there…I know the journey is tough but the universe has a plan :).
We are at the point where my daughter is desperate, let’s say BEGGING, to commit to a school. Patience my child…patience. I wish money wasn’t an object…but alas it always is. I am also so very ready for this process to come to its logical conclusion. Of course now we’re navigating the grad school waters with the D15 so it never ends does it LOL?
@kayak24 the “mourning” question is a good one because so blessed to say I have zero. DS has so much in front of him at Louisville with the Brown and GEMS programs and I am just on cloud nine about it. The fit seems like a glove to me and I am not sure I would want him to trade it for any other opportunity, even though I know there a lot of good ones out there. In the end it took the Brown to get him over UK, but in his words it was an opportunity he couldn’t pass up. He said it was clear going back to the beginning which school showed him the most love, and that helps you feel really good about the decision.
I want to keep coming back to this thread because it will be fun to hopefully see everyone eventually get to the same place we are.
I will add it can all come together quickly with one key decision or result. For DS it was the Brown that made everything clear. And I am so relieved because I swear I was going to be heartbroken over GEMS if he passed on it.
Re mourning over the schools not chosen, I wouldn’t say I mourned about S choosing to apply only to his safety. I was a bit concerned over it in the fall, wanting to be sure he was doing it for good reasons and not just taking the path of least resistance. Once I could see that he remains confident and hardworking with no apparent senioritis, and that he just really loves UTD, then I was fine with his decision.
I can say that I have a bit of mourning in that I can’t watch uva or unc play basketball in Acc tournament since they both rejected my daughter. I will get over that I am sure.
@AmyBeth68 thank you for your good wishes to my daughter. Obviously I would love to have her get a big scholarship but I am really hoping she just undestands the “love” Delaware will be giving her. And she understands that the reason is because she is an incredible young woman who worked so hard to get this great opportunity.
I hope she has a great experience meeting current honors students, meeting professors and most importantly meeting and interacting with the other great young men and women who are invited to this event.
I definitely feel some mourning.
I don’t expect I’ll ever fully let go because I still have some mourning for my own choices way back when (chose an Ivy over a NESCAC and still wonder “what if”)
@LOUKYDAD I am from Louisville originally and almost had to drag my daughter to take a look at Centre. It is a top contender now. Congrats to your son. Go Cards!
Wow! Lots of good news since I signed off to catch my flights! Congratulations!
@amom2girls she applied to 8 EA/rolling schools and was accepted at 7 (1 waitlist but we have moved on). We are doing 3 go back trips (though 4 schools because 2 were next to each other). One of the two schools we went to is off the list now. So we have 3 contenders…all very different.
No time to go in April so we are doing them now. If any of the 4 Hail Mary schools come in in March and have decent finances then we might visit that as well. So short answer is 3 trips…but as everything else in this big Jenga game we are all living in there are no short answers.
Bottom line is we have 3 very different contenders for the top spot.
I will be celebrating and mourning for sure when the decision is made.
Feeling excited, but nervous as my daughter is awaiting her admissions to her top U.C., UCLA., Univ. of Washington and two privates, USC and Vanderbilt, which will be not only slim chance but she would need financial assistance. So far she’s gotten into UCSB (chancellor’s invite) UCI honors and regents, SDSU, and Cal Poly. She’s not fully excited yet…unfortunately our spring break is over the last few weeks of March so we most likely won’t have heard yet. The waiting is so hard!
Good luck to all of our kids!
Not mourning here. Had a great run. Got into 5, denied at 1, and waitlisted at 1. Turned out pretty good! Decision is between NCSU and VT, with USC not totally out of the running.
I’m having major “what ifs” - not mouring any particular schools, but having successfully done ED three times with my kids, I’m denied the ability to see how their applications would have played out at their reach schools. They did their ED’s at schools that they had a good shot of getting into, even though the schools are technically reaches by CC standards. I asked my son yesterday if he had any regrets with going ED and he said not at all. He is happy to be done and into a top program in his major. I wish I felt like him. Intellectually I know he is completely right and we are super lucky. But all that time strategizing on ECs and wording the common ap and essays… If I could at least read a transcript of the admissions committee discussions and know what worked and what wasn’t important.
Best of luck to people still waiting on admissions decisions. There are a few of you whose paths I have been following and I have a good feeling that it will ultimately turn out well and those lottery schools will come through. Some of these early decisions are not good indicators of what is to come.
@stemmmm , I can really relate to the wondering and wishing I could see what the AOs thought of her app at the reach schools (had she not withdrawn them), even at D’s ED school that she will attend.
Our good news of the week is that DS was accepted into the Clark summer research program. He’s happy and I know it will be a good experiencce for him but sad that we will only have one week from high school graduation until he moves into the dorms at UT Dallas. This is getting real very fast!
Our daughter is so at peace with her decision and as far as I can tell, there is regrets on her end. Having said that, I have to said that there is quite a bit of mourning on our end. This has been a long process from beginning to end. All the fact finding. All the what if scenarios. All those visits prior to applying. All the time spent talking, rehashing, and finally coming up with a decision… And when it finally comes to the one and only one school, its like really? Interesting seeing how the process goes from school #1 to school #2, etc…Obviously, if the merit would have gone one way or another things would have been different. But when a school offers you an incredible scholarship, it is hard to justify spending much much more for a similar school…
The crazy thing is that, we get to do this again next spring when S20 starts to look into his options. The kids are so different in every way that it would not surprised me to see him going to school where his knows lots of people. Something D18 wanted no part of. Something tells me that either UGA, Alabama, and Florida and maybe ASU are going to be his go to schools…
However, if the distance isn’t workable you have to know your limitations and not be in denial about lack of fit, for whatever reason.