I’m so impressed with all of you that have long lists. So far, we only have six, and that’s really due to my preliminary research. The only school S23 has mentioned is my alma mater, and that is a high reach for anyone. (Things were easier when I applied decades ago.) Though at least he knows what he doesn’t want. D20’s search mainly involved LACs. We dragged S on the tours, and at each he was bored and turned off by the small size. S decided he definitely wants at least 6k students, and that is the bare minimum. When we visited my H’s alma mater, Bowdoin, S didn’t even want any swag. (You can imagine how my H felt! ) S is also looking at CS or computer engineering, so that leads to a different search. Still, he is very social, athletic, and outgoing so he doesn’t want to go to a hardcore tech university where there are, in his words, “Nothing but a bunch of nerds.” (Nevermind he is a hardcore STEM kid.)
To be honest, I have just recovered from D20’s search process. It was a lot of time and energy, but she was accepted ED into her top choice and loves it. I want the same for S, but he doesn’t seem particularly invested in the process. He keeps saying there is plenty of time. I am in the midst of grading final exams for the semester, and then I’ll spend the summer trying to pull a list together and get him more involved. Ugh.
I guess the benefit of having a more easygoing kid is perhaps I won’t have to worry about him “falling in love” with one or two schools like D20. There would have been a lot of tears if she was rejected from her top choices. S seems like he could be happy at a lot of different universities as long as they meet his general (few) requirements.