I think UH Manoa would have been perfect for her. I think ECU would be a fantastic choice for her as well. I’m less sure about the fit at UNCW but we’ve certainly heard great things about it, and Wilmington is a great town!
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My sister is an ECU grad (we’re not NC residents, so that was somewhat unusual back in the day) and she and all of her friends loved it so much. I’ve kept up with the school as my boys were looking just because so many alums seem so happy with their experience. I don’t see ECU getting a lot of love and attention on this board, but it seems like a really great fit for a lot of students.
It sounds like you and she had a good talk, I hope now that her worries are out there in the universe, she’ll feel better prepared to tackle them or dismiss them.
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I went to NCSU (Go PACK!) and had many friends go to ECU and UNCW. All great schools.
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Our HS has the same instagram set up - they post a current picture of the student, where they’ve accepted, what the potential major is if they know, then there’s a second slide with a baby picture. It’s cute and fun but it’s so easy to feel you’re “behind” when you are seeing the kids who have made a final decision.
We’re in this for the long haul, and I suspect it may be close to May 1 before we reach a decision. S25 has heard from, and gotten into, three schools and has two schools to go. Two will in announce in January (including his top choice), One in February (which is my top choice for him and that he needs to consider given $$), and One in March (which is basically out of the running unless some kind of amazing merit aid package comes through). We also won’t know until March what merit aid he’s getting from one of his early admits (the acceptance letter said, essentially, you’re in and you’re getting merit aid, but we won’t tell you how much until March).
That late merit aid school could become his top choice, but a lot depends on the $$. Then we’re definitely going to need to visit again, at least two schools and potentially as many as four (if he gets into two others). We’re going to be out of the country over spring break - my college kid is doing a term abroad and the rest of us are going to take Spring Break to visit him and to get a little vacation in, so I’m not sure how we’re going to get these visits in, but we’ll figure it out.
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Agree with all—I had no idea how anxious I, as a parent, would be during this process. I just want my twins to be happy—the waiting is torture. 
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S25’s school does the instagram thing on May 1st, except for athletic signings, which is only a few kids.
He’s waiting on 5 decisions between Jan and April 1, 6 I guess if you count his deferral but that’s very unlikely. I’m not sure he’s really paying attention! He’s been pretty involved to date but except for eliminating a few schools (sorry Auburn, Elon, and Montana State), he’s just bumping along like he’s got years to decide. Probably a healthy approach, at 18yrs old 4 months is a LONG time, but odd!
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ours has it too but they don’t start it up until around March/April to prevent it stressing kids out more
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My kid got deferred from two schools early on and then accepted to one with a high admit rate and he’s of course saying all the same things as your student in regards to downgrading that acceptance. I’m like remember you applied because for your major they are one of the best in the country!
The stress is maddening. I’d love for him to apply for more scholarships but after writing 41 essays he’s so darn burnt out he can’t do anymore. He’s mentally and physically drained.
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Hi, I’m pretty new to this platform, but it’s nice to read that other parents are going through the same thing. My son (is that supposed to be DS?) got into his EA college, but is having difficulty getting going on the last few essays. Eager for this process to be over!
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The the CC parents forum we typically use S25 indicating son and hs grad year. (I have a S19, S23, and finally D25). Soon to be empty nester!
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My S25 is my last, so I’ll be an empty nester, too. Not really ready to face that yet!
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And it’s true that some prefix D (meaning dear) before S/D/C (meaning, respectively, son/daughter/child) before the high school graduation year, but I feel like that’s become less common in the decade-ish I’ve been on these fora.
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Um, because rarely is S23 “dear”. When does spring semester start again? 
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my kids school too and has had it for a number of years…it is student run and they post 4-5 a week starting in mid-December..
I have a very anxious kid, but don’t think the insta postings stress them out…I think there is enough chatter in classes and hallways that none of it is shocking..
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I am surprised how many aren’t waiting on any! Mine is still waiting on 6 - all EA but come out in Jan..
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Yes! My waiting daughter is cool as a cucumber (or is putting on the front that she is)—I am the one who is a perpetual, emotional mess (inside—I’m hiding it hopefully from my children).
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My S25 is always “dear”!
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We’re in the waiting game here too. 2 acceptances from the safeties that would be ‘just fine’. But the targets and reaches are yet to come, including all the excitement for attending. 3 come in January and then it’s a wait for March from the RDs he’s currently trying to finish this weekend. A total of 2 in and waiting on 9. My DS is keeping a positive outlook as best he can but I can tell he’s nervous and trying not to get his hopes up while investigating the safeties to try to talk himself into excitement. My heart aches for him, waiting and hoping he gets at least one more acceptance he’s really over the moon about but with ‘avg’ gpa you just never know what can be counted on or how much a high SAT and great ECs can balance it. It’s exhausting. Here’s to a quick wait and positive outcomes for us all.
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back at you!
Mine is openly blasé about things, but at same time I know is very stressed inside, it peeks out once in awhile 
They are accepted at a number of schools (of various likely/target/reach levels), but favorites are yet to come..(of course those are the last…sigh).
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Well! Somehow I muted this thread back in mid-December, and somehow I didn’t notice that I wasn’t seeing all of the Class of 2025 posts. Just stumbled back in here and got caught up on a few weeks of posts.
So, weighing in way-late:
- Congrats to all of the acceptances from three-ish weeks ago (especially all of the merit scholarships!), and condolences to those rejected.
- @2plustrio, much love to your husband for his kidney donation; I hope he’s been healing from the hernia flare-up.
- @goldbug, I’m rooting for the quail hatchlings, and hope your son learns a ton through this process!
- On the topic of dachshunds, we’re fans! We’ve had one for about five years, and she’s been a real sweetie.
- Without getting too into the weeds on colleges, I think our twins have good lists. I worry a little about the lists being top-heavy, but they’re already in at a good OOS public (with good merit, and an early invite for one of the twins to the honors college), and they have very positive vibes towards another very likely school, so I shouldn’t be overly anxious. But until the final decisions come through in March, I suspect I’ll be a bit on edge. (The school they’re already in isn’t one they love; there are no guarantees on the likely! It will probably all work out in the end, but oof!)
- It has been a joy (if frustrating, at times, of course) to see them evolve and develop through this whole process. I’m reading D25’s last essays (S25 is all done submitting
), and my wife and I were discussing this morning over coffee about how neat it’s been to watch them distill their identities into shortform pieces that really convey who they are at this point in time. They are just the coolest, and while my wife and I can’t wait to be through this whole process, it’s also been awesome seeing the twins reflect on their lives and capture who they are, share what they’re passionate about, and imagine how they want to grow in the future. I’m so jealous of the admissions officers getting to “meet” them for the first time, and hope they can realize how special these kids are.
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