I’ve got THREE four year course progressions. I win 
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I’m feeling very behind on this course progression planing! This hasn’t crossed my mind and now feeling I missed a step on my spreadsheets 
FOMO!
Since my 25 decided, in the end, to go for engineering there is pretty limited options from what I gather, so I might not need to..
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IMO, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a parent emailing a college at this stage of the game.
Today I emailed the Office of Disabilities at my daughter’s most likely school because she has a major medical condition and I need information about how they will handle her condition as well as assurance that they will handle it with sensitivity and respect.
We are about to drop $150K+ on her education. If any college has an issue with me emailing them, then that is not the right college for us.
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I can find a roadmap for 1/2 her majors, but none that use the honors core curriculum. The issue is that she comes in with 32 credits for APs which cover 6/17 GEs. I think if she does the honors program that those credits don’t help at all, which is why I was asking them how their courses/sequences worked.
She could borrow up to $27,000 in fed student loans (non-need based) if she wants Clemson badly enough. $5500 freshman yr, $6500 sophomore, and $7500/yr junior and senior yr.
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No loans. Period.
Plus there is no reason to pay more.
Is $48K to $60K more (we don’t have the final numbers yet) worth it so that she can play a familiar fight song? Or so that she can attend the school ranked #80 instead of the school ranked #90? Or so that her Dad can be more excited come football season? No, no, and no.
My entire family has an issue with perfectionism. Although I went to UCLA, I was always told by my parents that it wasn’t as good as U of Michigan. My sister went to Harvard for grad school. My brother is a doctor; my own father told me that my Ph.D. study of literature was meaningless and useless. Now my husband and his family are fixated on Clemson (of all schools!)
I am not doing this to my daughter. I am not perpetuating it on to her. She already has so much to deal with. I am not discounting anyone’s issues, but I wish all she had to deal with is something like ADD. I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that no one else here is worried that their kid will die if they accidentally ingest alcohol or if they pull an all nighter or if they miss a dose of their meds or if their kid is 9 hours away.
I am.
And I realize all of this is more than you asked about, but it’s my reality.
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At my son’s college for the fall, he meets with an advisor (all freshmen do) to map out his entire four years for courses.
I was hoping you were going to say “no loans.” 
I threw out that info JUST in case there wasn’t a “no loans” family rule and JUST in case your family wasn’t aware of the borrowing limits for non-need-based federal undergrad student loans.
I think your reasons for ruling out Clemson are pretty solid. Your husband needs to pout in private and he needs to start talking up the other college. And your daughter will get over it.
Hang in there!
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We did the course progressions in order to determine which school has the best program for what my son is looking for, not to replace an advisor.
I think everyone knows that you’re never going to stick perfectly to any course choices now for four years.
ETA we just had ChatGPT do it, not a ton of work.
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My daughter does NOT have an “intellectual challenge.”
She has a medical disability.
Your comment only further illustrates your condescending attitude.
And frankly, if your family is typical in all neurological and other ways, you have no idea what you are talking about.
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Thank you.
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Again, you have no idea what you are talking about. Me sending one email only adds to her information base. It does not diminish her agency or her maturity or her self sufficiency. She fights harder for her independence than any other person of her age that I know.
I guess that it is easy to judge when you are not in the trenches.
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I don’t understand why you keep pushing. This is a lovely, supportive thread. And we all understand different families do things differently.
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Nah, you’re good.
There’s so much helicopter parenting that goes on in the social slice of the world most represented here on CC that there’s a weird backlash to it in some cases—including an intense, almost fetishized castigation of lending any assistance to a child when it comes to college applications. This is silly, at best. Like, there’s a reason I (singular) just logged in to my kid’s college account to pay the housing deposit. Yeah, technically C25 could totally have done it, but why?
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Thank you.
Wait, did C25 decide for reals? Is it Hofstra?
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Ouch. Uncool, all around.
And good on you for deciding to not perpetuate that.
FWIW, you are not the only one—absent modern pharmaceuticals, if my C25 hadn’t died already the child would be at the very best sickly, blind, and clearly not long for this world. It is…unpleasant? I can’t think of a good word, and that certainly doesn’t encompass it all. And it makes the child’s impending transition to college way scary, I agree.
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Ah, but what if they want to study abroad?
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It is!
But the kid didn’t want to deposit until there was a chance to talk it through with the older siblings, and since they’re all 3 and 4 hours off from us and two of them are working 8 to 5 jobs, lining up times to talk took a bit.
But this afternoon was the last sibling chat, and so this evening we made it official.
Which is a weird feeling. C17 was doing intense college searching from spring of 9th grade, and so tonight brings to an end 11 continuous years of evaluating college possibilities. As the parent who was most deeply involved with all that, I guess now I’ll have to figure out a new hobby.
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