I would try to get up here soon if you can. If you wait a few more weeks you’re going to be at higher risk for “sucker weather” when the flowers are in full bloom, the sun shining, and the people are smiling. If he’s coming to UW he should experience a real Seattle day in the Big Dark.
Obviously I’m trying to be a little funny but the PNW is hard for a lot of people and there is nothing more beautiful than the PNW on a sunny day, but they don’t happen during the school year much at all.
About your anxiety about choice. I am the same way and I remember it from D23 as well. This kind of underlying nausea that they’ve made a terrible mistake or will make a terrible mistake. I do think it’s a fear of change and losing our day to day with our kids. And maybe a little PTSD from college ourselves, remembering how scary it was at first etc. It all turned out great for D23, and I feel more optimistic with S25.