Never too early for that!! I promised D26 we would go all out for hers, hoping that she would find one for a reasonable cost. Well, it’s definitely looking like I will be regretting my promise! I had no idea the price of these dresses until we looked at our local boutique for giggles when HOCO dress shopping. HOLY MOLY!
Our senior class doesn’t really do anything as a group that parents would be involved with. And when they do, it’s the Junior class parents that run everything. Everything is very compartmentalized by activity and rarely do the streams cross. I was heavily involved in S23’s football and volleyball booster clubs, and with D26’s cheer booster until she stopped after sophomore year, but I haven’t really done anything since then. Which is weird because I had been hyper involved since they were 7. Luckily, most of the parents that I have served on committees and boards with over the years were very kind and welcoming.
That is totally our situation. S26 has had a “we’ve made a decision” email sitting unread in his inbox since Monday When I asked him if he had seen it and checked the portal, his answer was “oh I thought acceptances had come out, because I saw a bunch of my friends posting about it”. I am 99% sure it is an acceptance, because it is our state flagship, but he is not checking and now he is away at youth leg for a few days…..
Since we assume this is an acceptance, he is really just waiting on his EA reach, which comes out in January.
D26 has an EA decision from one of her reaches coming out in the next couple of weeks, and I’m very tempted to tell her to wait until after the holidays. THEN, it occurred to me that if she’s deferred or something, that she might have to write a LOCI, so she should probably check it out. I think she would LOVE to not see any decisions until it’s time to decide where she wants to go, lol.
decisions right before the holidays are tough. I think I also would not want to know until after . But then on the flip side, if it is an acceptance, it will make the holidays even better. This happened to my D22, she got an acceptance to one of her top 3 the week before Christmas and was over the moon.
I think it’s been quiet in our household because my son and husband are hoping for different schools. My son is hoping for one of the out-of-state options while my husband is hoping for the in-state flagship, CU Boulder (for financial reasons, as well as he’s an alum). We went through this with D22…her final 2 schools were CU Boulder and UW Seattle. She chose UW…which ended up being the absolute right decision for her.
I’m hopeful that at least one of the OOS schools will be an option, but not fully confident. He’s interested in engineering, which is a competitive major at all three of the OOS schools. I’m even getting nervous about CU because I’ve heard in recent years that applicants who seem to be competitive for direct admit into engineering are getting offered exploratory studies instead.
Ok, I need to shut off my brain or else I’ll spiral into the abyss of “what ifs.”
This would drive me nuts! I would want to know so bad my kid would likely open it just to get me off her back asking “did you check it yet?” every 20 mins.
You have a level of patience and control that I don’t possess. After 24 hours (actually probably less), I would have offered/threatened to check his portal for him. This is a time when any kind of decisive information is desperately needed!
Carolina moved their instate EA decision up from end of January to… December 20th.
Are you freaking kidding me at basically 4 days before Christmas and besides Accept / Decline, with this new format it could also quite easily be waitlist or deferred… Ugh.
It’s interesting the perspectives on this, we very much wanted EA decisions to come out before the holidays so that D26 can possibly trim her list based on results before RD deadlines. We were fortunate that a good one came in right before Thanksgiving, allowing her to cut at least 3 schools (she may drop a couple more in the next week). Her other EA that matters at all doesn’t come until January when it is too late. So glad we got the one.
I’m basically becoming convinced that there should be no EA or ED and that all decisions should come out March 30 or something. Then give everyone the month to go through all the emotions and decisions and then decide on May 1. And all apps should be due December 1 so that there’s no work over the holidays.
When they make me king of college admissions!
ETA, and then in that four months between apply and decide, everyone forgets what they submitted, etc. Or something…
That would make it really tough to schedule all the post-admission visits!
As it is, we plan to try to schedule any midwest / east visits earlier, and then schedule visits for the west coast until after UW and the UCs come out in March.
Images of homes turning into the NFL Teams “War Rooms” with their huge whiteboard grids and all the markers and erasures going on… phones ringing in the background trying to make trade deals / swaps"
I think it’s the proximity to Christmas that makes it tougher to swallow – ideally it would come out now-ish, and there’s still enough time until the holiday that you’re not sitting around with extended family waiting for this decision.
Yeah, I appreciate this is a ridiculous idea. I do wonder if it might cut down on the number of schools people apply to also. But anyway, I think it’s just replacing what feels like one set of issues with another.
Yes, I largely agree with @crapshooter. A lot of this is media driven. As a boomer-era, public high schooler, it was drilled into our heads that the term, “Ivy League“ only pertained to the 8 members of the football conference that went by that name. And, TBH, it wasn’t nearly the crapshoot (sorry for the pun) to get into any of them that it is today; an acceptance rate of 25% was all it took to be considered “Most Competitive“. And how did we know? Probably by going to a library, if you were nerdy enough. Word of mouth was probably sufficient. If you used the word, “Ivy League“ to anyone in conversation, you were likely covering half of all the universities in the country that were turning away three-quarters of their applicants (a third, if you included LACs - which most people did.)
Fast-forward to the present, and that number is in the hundreds, fueled by migration to The Sunbelt and by deregulating the airline industry.
In summary, I think the increased use of the terms, “T10“,“T20“, and “T30“ to organize one’s thoughts around selectivity in the college admissions process is borne by the necessity for a more flexible term than “Ivy League“. Even taking the selectivity ratio as far down as, <5% will yield you to dozens of places all over the country.
Ha ha, if it was a different school, that would have probably been my reaction. I would actually like him to go to our flagship but it’s number 4 of 5 on his list right now.
I am reserving my nagging to get him to complete his cohort program application, which would be his number one if he was accepted and got a departmental scholarship to go with it (but which he is in no hurry to complete, because youth leg, soccer, friends, life …). I pick my battles
Am I remembering right that she got into Quinnipiac right? On your other point, one of D26s top choices accepts 60+% of students and we love that school for her. I wish folks would not get so focused on acceptance rates as a measure of quality or worth or whatever. University of Oregon accepts like 85% of applicants and everyone I know whose gone there loved it, has tremendous pride in school and good careers.
When I asked him if he had seen it and checked the portal, his answer was “oh I thought acceptances had come out, because I saw a bunch of my friends posting about it”. I am 99% sure it is an acceptance, because it is our state flagship, but he is not checking and now he is away at youth leg for a few days…..
. But then on the flip side, if it is an acceptance, it will make the holidays even better. This happened to my D22, she got an acceptance to one of her top 3 the week before Christmas and was over the moon.
