Hey CC community, apologies if this is not the right sub-forum for this kind of post, I’m brand new here. I’m a HS senior.
Title is a bit misleading in the sense that my aunt and uncle are actually the ones guiding me through college admissions and even offering to pay my tuition. Dad isn’t in the picture and my mother is an immigrant with no clear understanding of American college admissions. So that’s why aunt and uncle are running the show, so to speak.
My aunt and uncle are both Ivy League graduates (Princeton and Yale, respectively), very intelligent, inspiring people. Yet their ignorance of the current climate of college admissions is problematic, as I think they’re setting me up to crash and burn come the release of college decisions. They graduated in 1978. It is 2020. “If I can do it, you can!” They honestly believe that I can get admitted into the very best schools in the country.
They have been pushing me to the likes of HYPS, and they have literally dissuaded me from applying to any actual safeties (according to uncle, UMichigan is my safety). they have literally told me to take off Northeastern and USC because I’m “too good for those schools”. Also, there seems to be this idea that I am bound for these stellar universities just because I’m a relatively smart URM in a low-income Oregon household (for the record, aunt and uncle are both white, rich, Manhattan residents).
Here is my college list, which feels like their list, as of now. To preface, I honestly think I could thrive at most of these, I just think it’s an amazing waste of energy and money to fill out applications for schools I have zero chance to.
Columbia - My dream school, FWIW
Yale - No desire to attend this one
My mother is pushing me to the likes of HYPS, I think just because of their brand recognition and, yes, her ignorance of the selectivity we’re dealing with. So that makes 3 family members that are pressuring me to only apply to reach schools. How the heck can I convince my family that:
- Simply being smart doesn’t guarantee admission into this class of colleges
- My stats are way too low
- I absolutely need a few safety schools ?
Thank you for reading my rant. I’ve been lurking around the forums for a bit and I wanted to vent a bit. Any advice about my predicament is much appreciated. I can provide my stats, ECs, whatever, but frankly I’m not sure what the point is.