<p>Some of the kids who are admitted to elite schools are not used to rejection or failure. It’s pretty near impossible to have lived 18 years without experiencing any failure, but remember back when the elite school adcoms started saying they worried about the kids with the perfect transcripts–fearing they wouldn’t be able to handle it if they didn’t do as well in college? My D has a friend from college who has been highly successful in a number of arenas. He’s not arrogant exactly, but has an unbridled optimism about himself that comes from almost never losing.</p>