<p>I have my set of friends already, bears and dogs. They just happen not to be the parents of my kids’ high school classmates for the most part (with a few exceptions). I could easily go weeks without running into any of these other hs parents. I have my own business, my own life and my own free time activities that don’t involve them. They are perfectly nice people and I wish them all well – we are just not friends or anything much more than very casual acquaintances, that’s all.</p>
<p>how do you know them if you haven’t met face to face every one of the group you mentioned?
how often have you been there? (the plane ride away one) If you do know, where and how do you learn from?
or you are saying you don’t want to understand because you don’t need?
I am not kidding you, seriously, how could you be so SURE?</p>
<p>back to main question: it is not rude. People who do poorly on something do not talk about it. People who succeed do.</p>
<p>Rich people talk to each other and their kids about money all the time. Poor people do not and make it “taboo” and “rude.” Look at parents of kids who get over 2300 (which is probably mostly asian lol). They openly discuss SAT and every social dinner party or gathering.</p>
<p>Humility is a virtue.</p>
<p>Humility is a virtue; so is honesty. Wasn’t it Aristotle who pointed out that virtues must have balance and that extremes weren’t desirable either? It’s all situational to the fact pattern at hand. Nothing wrong with being proud of your kid, as long as it is tempered with allowing others space to be proud of their kids’ accomplishments too. Be it scholastic, athletic, or artistic…most every one has glowed with pride about their offspring at some point and about something. I pity the child whose parents aren’t proud. It’s all about Aristotles balance IMHO.</p>
<p>And CCSniper, I know of 8-10 kids of all races and ethnicities who made over 2300 on their SATs. A pretty diverse, intelligent bunch. ;-)</p>
<p>It is very easy to be proud without bragging to others.</p>
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<p>I disagree. I think it is rude because it is very clearly a private question that should not be asked. The fact that rich people talk about money does not mean that one rich person asking another about his annual income is not rude. </p>
<p>There seems to be an extremely limited range of motives for the question. Regardless, it is simply something that is almost never appropriate to ask.</p>
<p>Extremely easy.</p>
<p>Yes it possible, but no where as near pleasurable for most parents or kids. (if a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear it…). </p>
<p>Excessively it’s wrong, but in balance and appropriate to the situation and in the company of kind and shared interested parties, it’s harmless. If we wish to judge or deny others’ pleasure in expressing pride of their kids, what does that say about us as human beings anyway ? I agree it can be done to excess and discomfort–but that’s the extreme. Again, to me it’s about balance. Aristotle was a bright guy. I enjoy the pride and pleasure my friends express about the kids 9 out of 10 times, and will happily receive and share. And yes, get annoyed when 1 out of 10 is unbalanced and unhealthy.</p>
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<p>Proudmom,
No one is going to stop you from broadcasting your kid’s SAT scores, if that is what gives you great pleasure. In fact, if you throw in your bra size and the year you lost your virginity, you might even get nationwide coverage on HuffPost under “Weird news.” JK</p>
<p>It is very hard to generalize about this topic. I know when our first child did well on the SATs, I was probably more eager to share than I should have been. (Hey, when your firstborn gets an 800 on some part of the test, which is better than either parent ever did, you feel you did something RIGHT!) 
After the 2nd & 3rd child, we were more blase about it. OTOH, the poor 3rd child (and the 4th) may have felt neglected because they were not bragged about…</p>
<p>And sometimes the question about the SAT/ACT scores is out of genuine hope that the child did as well as they needed to to get into the school of their dreams. I loved hearing good news about my friends’ children; I like to think I was tactful about not asking when the news wasn’t likely to be good, but everyone makes mistakes.</p>
<p>I think this: I wouldn’t ask a casual acquaintance how their child did. Too many ways to misinterpret the question. But among friends, we did share these things.</p>
<p>I was asked the question but I think they already knew the answer was going to be a pleasant one.</p>
<p>Neither my sexual history or my bra size are noteworthy. And I don’t read HuffPo. But yes, I willingly listen to my friends brag on their kids, when they are understandably proud and it gives them pleasure. I enjoy their pride and pleasure.</p>
<p>I have a confession to make, I asked a coworker (who’s DD is a clasmate of my DD) the other day her daughter’s scores because of her constant bragging… she would talk about her high her daughter’s class rank is and state that her test scores were amazing…
So I mentioned something to my DD about how X is doing so well isn’t that great? My DD looks at me and says mom her class rank is below mine and I am pretty sure her test scores are too…
After listening to the mom go on for 6 months, the next time she brought it up I asked just what was her SAT score… rude I know… was shocked to find out it was 200 pts lower then my DD when she asked about her scores…
Lunch has since been much nicer as we steer clear of grade talk now…</p>
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<p>Not necessarily. My Sal friend never talked about his SAT scores or grades…he didn’t even list his GPA or his Sal rank on his resume right before graduation. </p>
<p>By contrast, I sometimes reveled in ****ing off obnoxious parents/classmates in high school by making a big deal of my low class ranking(Bottom 50%), “negative SAT scores”, and pointing out that despite all that…managed to gain admission to a respectable private LAC. </p>
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<p>Only a crass subset of rich people or high SAT scorers would act as you described. Most people I know who are wealthy and/or high SAT scorers are secure enough in themselves to never feel the need to even make note…much less brag about their wealth/scores. In fact, some feel such behavior to be quite unseemly and shows a distinct lack of class they disdainfully associate with “social climbers”.</p>
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<p>This is one of the only times when asking someone’s scores is acceptable IMHO. There’s nothing wrong with putting an obnoxious braggart in his/her place by asking him/her to “put up or shut up”.</p>
<p>Really rich people complain about how expensive everything is.</p>