Party Hearty or Not

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<p>I was driving back from the california democratic convention(yes, democrats ARE socially liberal) and decided to go to a party. I called up a friend and was told that there was a huge party going on. So, I decide to go there. Immediately when I pull up to the house( a 10 million dollar mansion in San Marino no less) I see the lookouts pulling out their phone and start telling their friends that the cops have arrived.I drive an undercover cop car :slight_smile: But, when I get out of the car everyone else gets much more relaxed. I go into the party and see the things I was expecting. The party was held in the backyard. I see kegs of beer, cans of beer, some other hard liquor. There were a few people smoking (cigarettes, not pot by the smell of it) and the place generally had lots of trash around it.</p>

<p>I recognized about 20-30 people from what I estimate were 75 people at the party. Everyone there was like “Whoa ____ I never expected to see you here, let me introduce you to some people?”. I think this point bears some explaining. For the past 4 years I have been really concentrated on stuff which was pertinent( Academics, Student Government, etc etc). Don’t get me wrong. I am not a hermit who sits alone and just reads ap chem to myself. But, I like to go to the movies or a play or comedy acts or other such things, heck I LOVE the Youth and Government and hs dances. I had never been to party of this caliber.</p>

<p>My question is, should I continue going?</p>

<p>Driving back from the party(where I was the designated driver, driving my drunk friend home) I realized that I was probably the only person at that social function who looked at all the activities and the theming of it(Sue me or Screw Me) from a Sociological/Anthropological standpoint and immediately thought that I could write a graduate thesis on this. Does this make me a total nerd? I was also probably the only one who knew the reaction involved in a breathalyzer test and knew how to reverse the reaction. If I remember correctly, it includes putting an aldehyde like cinnamon gummi bears and copper(like a penny) together to reverse the reaction and show a false negative. This was related to me by my Organic Chemistry prof even though I would never be stupid enough to drink and drive. This could also be studied within a controlled setting ( ie, a lab) although lots of people might get upset at me.</p>

<p>Seeing as it is my senior year, I want to explore some of the activities which I havent explored in the past. I posted on this board because I would like the wise and wizened(apologize in advance, couldnt help myself) guidance of some of the parents on cc.</p>

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<p>I can’t quite tell from your post whether you want to. </p>

<p>I don’t have any advice on this topic (wise/wizened or not) but I’ll be interested to see what the other replies say. I’m naive in that my two oldest ds, like you, “concentrated on stuff which was pertinent” in high school and had social lives that did not include underage drinking. (So naive that it took me several years to realize that “party” means “get drunk,” not merely “have fun.”) They chose not to drink in high school for several reasons, the dominant one being, both have told me, that they did not want to deal with their dad and me if we were to learn of their alcohol use. Other reasons: not “in” with/don’t especially like the kids who party frequently; too busy; don’t “need” to to be happy; didn’t want to risk school reprisals (kids who are found intoxicated off of school property are dealt with as if they were drinking at school: i.e., suspended the first time, expelled the second); have seen alcoholism in our extended family and find it frightening.</p>

<p>College is 4 months away and there will be many, many opportunities for partying, most of which, blessedly, don’t involve the need to get into a car (though some may present the possibility of date rape or alcohol poisoning, which don’t seem to happen as often in high school). Can you wait? What are the downsides to partying in your community, if any? Are your parents okay with it?</p>

<p>Just wondering about this, too - are you describing a high school party or a mixed-age party with adults present? Most of the partying around here is in a field or parking lot, with alcohol provided by the just-barely 21 y/o sibs or friends of those attending, or bought using (expensive) fake IDs. Were the owners of the $10 million mansion home at the time, and was the party held with their permission/blessing? And if so, how can someone be dumb enough to accept responsibility for underage drinking in their home but still smart enough to wind up with a $10 million mansion?</p>

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<p>the party was hosted by a private school kid and was primarily held in the backyard, at least I didnt see any people inside. It was primarily a hs party but I’m guessing that the alcohol was provided by the host through “connections”</p>

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<p>bump bump bump it up</p>

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<p>Double posting!!! I’m SHOCKED!!!</p>