My daughter was accepted to UCSD and has a pretty reasonable college fund. She has suddenly decided to take a scholarship at Univ of Arkansas Little Rock because they will give her a free ride with a stipend. She went to High School in Ar by the way.
I have offered to pay her full costs (above what she has in the fund) at UCSD but she is not budging. UALR is ranked at 2501 compared to UCSD at 35. It is making me I’ll and I don’t know how I can get her to change her mind.
Suggestions?
Honestly, I would just let her do what she wants to do. You may think that going to a lower ranked school will hinder her potential, but I see it in a different light. U of Arkansas is a smaller school, perhaps she wants to go to a smaller school. Well, there is the saying that you can drag a horse to the watering hole, but you can’t make it drink from it. Do not ever force her to do anything that she does not want to do. Think of it this way: the difference between A+ and F is the “titude” after the letter. It is all about attitude. She wants to go to a smaller and lower ranked school? Great for her! She realizes that in life, it is not all about the numbers, but learning as much as what she puts in.
Well, this is coming from a guy that is a nonconformist and a rebel at heart who questions the system. You can take my advice, but you may as well question my advice as well. I totally understand how you feel about me saying that. The way I see it is that: we all are going to die someday, it is not about where you went, how much money you made, but what you have learned and what you have done to better the world.
I agree with davidthefat. She may be the the top of her class at Arkansas and will be able to use her college fund money for graduate school! If you makes you feel any better, my son has two friends who go to UCSD and neither one of them like it. I think they are both transferring.
So the problem I have with this whole thing is that she waited till nearly June to come up with this out of the blue.
Back when it was time to apply to schools I encouraged her to apply to the best schools she felt would be a good fit and made sense money wise. I took her on tours of nearly all the UC campuses. She also toured UA Fayetteville and liked it. I am a Cal resident so she gets in state in either Ca or Ar. I encouraged her to apply to any other good schools but she declined.
She was accepted to all the UC’s she applied to except UCLA. UCSD was at the top of her list. For years she has said how crappy UALR was and that she had no intention of going there. She didn’t apply but they are so desperate for good students they are tripping over themselves to sign her up.
As I suspected she is too late to get the full scholarship so the money advantage is now pretty much not a factor. She can get it next year but starts out paying the full load.
She seems to have done very little thinking and I suspect it is because she met somebody.
“I suspect it is because she met somebody”
This could potentially explain the reason for the sudden and drastic change of heart.
I know UCSD was the top of her list, but when you toured UCSD with your daughter, did her perception of the school change? If not, that would be suspicious.
Yes, under ordinary circumstances I would agree with davidthefat, but the new circumstances given I believe do not warrant a good justification for UALR.
Whats her reason for the change in decision?
Wish I knew. She hasn’t said what her reasoning really is. She said it was because of the stipend and full scholarship but that doesn’t fly. She says she plans to transfer to UA Fayetteville later. She claims it’s not just because she has friends going there. I just can’t figure it out.
Our oldest son got denied to UCSD and pounded on the admissions office door till they let him in. He loved UCSD and is now an attorney in DC. The youngest son was also denied and ended up at UCR. He would have killed to have gotten into UCSD.
She toured UCSD and the other UC’s before she submitted her applications and was really excited about it at the time. She had been on UCSD Facebook groups discussing housing etc. She got into Muir which was the college she wanted.