<p>D, college Sr., is going out clubbing tomorrow night. If she drives as the designated driver, she’s responsible for not drinking at all, and transporting her friends who will drink, while navigating the roads full of drunk drivers. She is asking if we will pay for/split a limo, so she can drink safely, and not have to drive. We feel that either we’re paying for her to be able drink, which we aren’t happy about, or hoping she won’t, which we worry about. Thoughts?</p>
<p>Reason why she can’t get a cab instead?</p>
<p>If it’s her car, how do you feel about her friends vomiting in it? How does she feel? </p>
<p>I’d never want my kid to be a designated driver on New Year’s Eve. We recently had 2 local kids in a wreck (single fatality) because the drunk one pulled on the steering wheel being well-managed by the sober kid, pulling them both into a tree. Or at least, that’s what the sober surviving kid has to say about it.</p>
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For me, that’s a much greater risk than having her drinking in the back seat of a limo. It takes a great deal of driving experience to navigate New Years Eve. Weighing the risks, I’d pitch in for the limo. Except I wouldn’t because my kid wouldn’t ask me for that money. </p>
<p>PS, I hate NY Eve. Bah humbug.</p>
<p>Wait. Is she playing you by saying she’d be the designated driver, in order to get you to fork over the limo money? Maybe all the kids are saying the same line to their parents? Did I say I hate NY Eve…Yes.</p>
<p>No. Absolutely not. Do not pay. If she has enough money to go clubbing on NY eve’s she can pay for her own limo. Maybe if she has to divert some of her funds to pay for the limo she won;t have such a bad hangover on New Year’s Day.</p>
<p>Look at it this way. She is saying " will you give me some money so I can get REALLLLLY drunk on New Year’s Eve?"</p>
<p>Wait, this girl has it all figured out and is determined to have the best of everything. Of course, her parents are going to be nervous wrecks thinking of their D on the roads with a bunch of lushes playing live Frogger, so her alternative is to get them to fork over big bucks (and it’s going to be EXPENSIVE, because if a limo isn’t booked by now, they can charge what they want…) so that she and her friends can vomit in someone else’s vehicle and not feel guilty about it. It’s easy for me, and the rest of us, to say all of this, but sillymilly, you do what feels right for YOU. I suspect you’ll tell her that you don’t approve of what she is doing but that you’re going to pay, which is what I think I would do if in your shoes. Thankfully, I’m not, but any of us could easily be and I’d hate to log on here on the 1st and read that something had happened.
We’ll be home, watching Live from Lincoln Center (hey, D’s a voice major!)</p>
<p>Why don’t all the kids pitch in and pay for the limo themselves? That would be the most fair thing to do.</p>
<p>^^^^ stole the words right out of my mouth</p>
<p>Paying for transportation (cab, train, etc) is one thing. But paying for a limo is altogether different. </p>
<p>She and her buddies should all pool their funds and come up with a plan together. Sounded as if your daughter felt obligated to do the driving. </p>
<p>Maybe offer a reasonable amount of cash and she can decide how to get to where she wants to go.</p>
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<p>In general, my sons never had as much money as their college friends. (D went to a place that didn’t socialize based on money.) </p>
<p>Often my boys would offer to do something like this because they didn’t have the ready cash to toss into the kitty, but they still wanted to part of the group. Not easy for the students, either.</p>
<p>Where do you live that the roads are full of drunk drivers? I mean that sincerely, it seems odd to me (not the worry part, I worry about everything, but is this a realistic belief?). In our city, we have lots and lots of road blocks/checks and the number of people caught is extremely small even on NY eve (not like 20 years ago, which was a different story). I would not want my child in a car with a driver who has drank anything at all, but I would not be worried about him or her on the road per se (whether driving or in a limo or a cab…all of which are the same risk anyway).</p>
<p>Sounds like she doesn’t really want to be a designated driver after all but wants to pretend she’s responsible. Ugh. A limo instead of a cab? Tell her to be a grownup. Grownups don’t order limos bc they want to drink.</p>
<p>Limo would be expensive on New Year’s eve in NYC. If you are willing to pay for a limo, I would rather try to get a hotel room instead. It would be safer. Of course, you would have to be able to get a room first. Most kids stay at friend’s apartment in the city if they are clubbing. You could get a room at Millenum Hilton for $299.</p>
<p>How do you know the OP’s D is planning to go out in NYC?</p>
<p>I don’t think you and your D are responsible for providing a limo for her friends so they can drink on NYEs. </p>
<p>I would suggest everyone take a cab and share the fare. If it is a big city, oldfort’s idea of grabbing a hotel room is a great option as well.</p>
<p>If they are in NYC, forget the cab, forget the limo; New Year’s traffic is insane. Tell her and her friends to take the subway. Cheaper, faster, and on New Year’s probably safer.</p>
<p>oops! Read the title wrong AGAIN…</p>
<p>nevertheless, I will still **Pray<a href=“%5Bi%5Dsic%5B/i%5D”>/b</a> for D’s limo on New Year’s Eve !!!</p>
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