<p>“My mistakes do not result in other people’s lives being ruined forever.” soccerguy315</p>
<p>It is simply not possible to say that, particularly when you consider that your mistakes may not be those of commission, but rather those of ommission.</p>
<p>In other words, you can’t know whether or not someone’s life was ruined because of your failure to act, or your failure to act ENOUGH. (Unless, of course 10 years later you find out that a life was ruined because you ONLY followed the reporting rules that you were aware of at the time.)</p>
<p>You never failed to intercede, in middle schoool, when an bigger, older kid was bullying a smaller one? And if you did intercede once, you never failed to continue to intercede? </p>
<p>You never failed to report to social services an over the top argument that you heard going on through open windows of a neighbor’s house? And if you did report it, you never failed to follow up on that report, even if Social Services told you that they couldn’t do more?</p>
<p>You never failed to stop your car to step into a street fight to stop it?</p>
<p>You never continued on your way past the lady spanking her youngster in Walmart?</p>
<p>Any one of those situations could result someone else’s life being ruined forever, but you wouldn’t know that that happened because of your failure to act.</p>
<p>Recently, in my neighborhood, there was a kid who was selling drugs out of his car that was parked in front of his house. This is a suburban upper middle class area, with great schools and high achieving kids and parents. Last summer, high on drugs, he crashed his car, going 50 in a 30 zone, into a light pole on a curving, narrow road. He was in a coma for months, and his family just built a ramp in anticipation of his return to his home from rehab. He is paralyzed. Most of the teens in the neighborhood knew about his drug sales, but nobody reported it to his parents. As far as I know, the adults in the neighborhood simply thought there were lot of “interesting, quirky looking kids” hanging around his driveway and playing basketball in the late afternoons before his parents got home from work. Did our collective mistakes in not saying something ruin this kid’s life forever? Yes. Would all of us look back and say, “I wish I could have done this differently?” Yes.</p>