<h2>tom1944 - my thoughts exactly. This is a letter that I sent to the NY Times OpEd page. It didn’t get printed (and I didn’t expect it to be, honestly), so I’ll just post it here. Sorry so long.</h2>
<p>One of the biggest problems I have with the child molestation tragedy at Penn State is the distinct lack of heroism on the part of Mike McQueary.</p>
<p>A marine who drives into a firefight repeatedly to rescue his comrades - that’s a hero. He makes a decision to risk his own well-being, his very life, to help another human being.</p>
<p>McQueary was not a hero. Yes, what he allegedly saw was undoubtedly shocking, maybe even frightening. Sandusky is a bull of a man, a man with the physical stature to successfully handle the defensive end position on an NCAA Division 1 football team. And he’s a man with the charisma and authority to control an entire college defensive unit as a coach. This is a guy who would probably intimidate most people, in many situations. And to find him raping a boy, with enough vigor to produce the “rhythmic, slapping sound” that McQueary says he heard from <em>outside</em> the shower – this in indeed a problematic situation for a young man who was newly employed in one of the most prestigious college football programs in the country.</p>
<p>Yes, Mike Mcqueary had himself to think of. It appears he had the credentials and connections to make quite a career for himself, as indeed he has, at least to this point. He was a young man with quite a bit to lose. But the more you have to lose, the greater the heroic act, when you actually put yourself on the line. McQueary was understandably concerned for himself and JoePa’s program, in that situation. Not to say that he was not concerned about the boy. He was so upset by what he saw that he went to seek advice from the man he trusted most (possibly aside from JoePa), his father.</p>
<p>I find it disturbing that much of the focus in this sickening tragedy is upon the Penn State institution itself, its football team, and the fates of those associated with the team rather than on the victims. What tends to fade into the background now, and what was completely missing then, was the requisite human response to the plight of that boy and the others like him. What that boy needed, at the moment that McQueary saw him and Sandusky together, was for McQueary to take some action to stop the event. Right now. A shout, anything. And if Mcqueary was afraid for himself or his career, intimidated by the coach-in-rut Sandusky, then he could have stood outside the shower and shouted “get away from that boy, I’m calling the police!” Anything, anything, to stop the event. (Rhetorically: Would his reaction have been different, had it been a young girl? I shudder even more, to think of that scene, and wonder why.)</p>
<p>A pre-teen boy, subjected to that type of sexual activity, might be physically injured. Notwithstanding the inevitable emotional/psychic wounds. McQueary needed to step up, to disregard the comparably trivial prize of career-in-college-football, and take an action to protect a young boy’s well-being. He didn’t do that, in fact he apparently did nothing, absolutely nothing, to stop the act itself. That, in my mind, was his first and most serious mistake. He was not a hero, when the events demanded it. But don’t all football people live to be a hero? Isn’t that what they’re trained for? Or doesn’t it translate to real life?</p>
<p>But to give him a pass on the first round of inaction, because the event was too shocking to correctly process, or because he was too intimidated by Sandusky’s and/or the Penn State program’s larger-than-life aura, McQueary failed again and again when he did not follow up. Unfortunately for Mr. McQueary, he alone saw the event, and knew firsthand what actually happened. In my mind, he and he alone, by virtue of being that witness and as a member of the human race, was the sole person accountable for the ultimate follow up. So he failed in not acting immediately, he failed every subsequent day of his life when he didn’t try to identify that boy and help him, and he failed when he learned that his organization effectively did nothing to prevent Sandusky from repeating the act somewhere else , perhaps even against the same boy.</p>
<p>This was a complete and utter failure of McQueary as a human being, as a sports professional, and as an employee of an educational institution. Mike McQueary was not a hero when he could have been, and the consequences from that omission will be stunning in their scale.</p>