So, there’s this party that’s going on Friday night. It’s on campus in the dorm room, plus it’s on my floor. I’m not even sure why these students would even think of doing something that risky. It’s a BYOB party and I’m avoiding it at all costs. I found out about this on my college’s party Twitter page, so it’s not private or invite only. I do know who they are and I’m planning on telling my CA or our entire dorm building leader about this anonymously. I don’t want these students to ruin to their college careers by trying to host party in a crowded room, let alone drinking as well. Plus, if a CA hears about this while the party is going on, then it’s all over for them. Also, they’re are all under 21 and it’s a dry campus, so even if some of them are 21 or over, it still wouldn’t matter.
So overall, I’m planning to put an end to this because it’s the right thing to do. Just imagine what would happen if I didn’t care about their futures by not telling someone about this?
I suggest you just stay away from the room where the party is. I would not report it. It is not your job to be the caretaker for other people on your hallway.
I think that you need to either get out of there (change to a different dorm) or tell someone in authority such as the resident advisor in your dorm. There is a lot that could go wrong with this.
Underage drinking is relatively common on university campuses, and the resident advisors in your dorm should know how to handle this or who to call.
@happy1 What happens if this goes unreported and something happens to them? Not that I would care if they ruined their college careers because they made a bad choice, but it could affect everyone in the building if this party was publicly announced and no one stepped up to the plate like I’m going to do, anonymously.
Furthermore, what if they asked everyone who lived here if they found out about this party before Friday if something negative happens? By not reporting something that’s illegal puts all the blame on me for not telling someone about this. I’m sorry, but I can’t let this slide. I’m not letting people harm themselves just for a little fun on a Friday night in their own dorm room.
I agree with happy1. Control your own behavior, not that of others. If you are truly concerned for your friends, then share your concerns with them directly. Do not tattle on them. You don’t care about their futures if you tell on them; you risk harming their future if they are assigned consequences as a result of your tattling! There is a difference between caring concern and obnoxious self-righteousness.
(Caring concern, however, of course would encompass telling someone in authority if you witnessed someone in actual danger at the moment, during or after a party. Then it truly is about their safety.)
If you rat them out be prepared for a lashback that you may never shake as people will not trust you. Everyone knows college kids drink. Its been going on forever. I think you are making abigger deal out of it then necessary. If it turns into a rager campus security will be there rather quickly. Its not on you. Just go somewhere for the evening.
@bodangles Never, but this is an on campus party. But, I’ll live with the guilt if something goes very wrong. Which probably won’t happen at this one, but maybe it’ll just turn out to be nothing. So, I guess I lose again with another situation. Seems that I can’t find some common ground on here because I tend to jump on stuff without thinking through it first.