<p>I have had a confrontation with my roommate and I got pretty rude and nasty due to my built up frustration and anger so I decided to come on here and vent it out a little and see others input on the situation.</p>
<p>I am coming to the end of my Junior year and have lived with the same guy since freshman year. First we were in a dorm room, then an apartment with two others, now in another apartment with one other. Instead of just talking negative about my roommate and making myself out to be perfect I will easily admit I am far from being perfect. I can complain a lot, sometimes I can make silly little problems seem like huge issues and other times I can let many things go. I could go into specifics about things that annoy me like dirty dishes, leaving lights and tv on for extended periods of time when he leaves for school, and lack of cleanliness but i feel this would just make my post long, redundant, and just unproductive. So, I will just cut to the chase and vent about what I feel has caused me to feel this way now over the three years of, not terrible but just unsatisfactory living. I can summarize my frustration and pinpoint my resentment to one key observation. I will say that I can not stand this trait that my roommate has and many people in the world share. He is always only willing to do the bare minimum in just about every aspect of his life. In his school work, in household duties, in life in general. It is always about putting in just enough effort and time just to be able to scrape by. He has chosen a degree that requires minimal effort even though there are many more prestigious and challenging degrees out there. When a household duty comes up he always says things like “oh that will do”, “ahh, ill just do it later”, “screw it that will work”, knowing that the job that has been done has not been completed to its fullest potential and that more effort will be required later because of the sub-par effort now. He has admitted to me on many occasions that his degree is too easy, and that he isn’t challenging himself enough yet he does nothing to push himself or work harder and still makes poor grades in classes that even he considers too easy. I could just ignore all of these things, knowing that his performance will have no long term effect on me and that he is only harming himself but this is where my annoyance and frustration comes in. I am the complete opposite, i strive for success. I am studying applied mathematics and am pushing my brain to its limits on a daily basis in order to attempt to reach my full potential because I far from being a genius and I know that in order for me to get through this program will take more effort on my part instead of settling for something easier that i feel comfortable knowing I will pass all of the required courses. In things other than academics, I also am the type of person that likes to have and obtain the best or at least above average. With household duties, I put full effort in and complete a task to my best capabilities making sure that something is fully completed most of the time. Sometimes things come up, I may be ill, i might be having a bad day and this is where i said i will admit i am not perfect. Sometimes I can do a half ass job but this is of rare occurrence and when i know i have not put in full effort i am not satisfied with the outcome. Naturally, all of the times where a poor effort has been put in by my roommate I have to pick up his slack around the house because I obviously have to live in it too and refuse to lower my standards to suit his personality. Putting extra time in to clean, turn off lights and electronics that are left on and the continuous addition to my list of things to do because of other peoples lack of aspiration has worn me down.</p>
<p>The bottom line is I can not stand having to pick up others slack because their standards are simply not in my nature. The way i was raised in comparison to the upbringing of my peers clearly differs and is indirectly causing strain on me because i am not able to just let these small things go on a daily basis and be satisfied with the minimum. As i previously said i just wanted to vent this one out and see if anyone else had any input or share similar problems being surrounded by lack of care or concern. </p>