Is that a you problem or a me problem?
No matter where you go, there you are
Have fun storming da castle! (always say this to kids when they go anywhere)
The Serenity Prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. "(Because some things cannot be changed/fixed).
"Don’t let your past hold your future hostage. "(Some closed doors need to stay closed–deadbolted, barricaded, bricked over if necessary. )
“Sleep on it.” (Things usually look clearer in the morning. Don’t try to solve problems, make decisions when you are exhausted. )
"Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming . . . " (Sometimes going on, enduring, is all you can do.)
Wayne Gretzky: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
You don’t have lot marry everyone you love.
Not really a motto, but something I tell myself when I’m really stressed at work and need perspective: 3 months from now, you won’t even remember what you were so wigged out about today.
Count your blessings.
“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” - Albert Einstein
“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” - Mike Tyson
“If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.” - Henry Ford
Then there is Bill and Ted’s most excellent advice:
" Be excellent to each other." “Party on, dudes.”
Turn off the screens and go outside.
Integrity is what you do when no one is looking.
Wonderful thread!
What I told my kids:
“When making a decision about whether or not to do something, ask yourself how you would feel if everyone you respect could know what you were doing. If you are still comfortable with that, then go ahead.”
I think that came to me after I read about a local college student who had been caught on a dorm video many years ago breaking into another student’s room and stealing something. So I told my kid to imagine what he was considering doing being captured on video, and if he was fine with it, go ahead.
Also suggested to my son that he imagine his high-school girlfriend’s father observing him while son was on a date with her. (That high-school GF is now his wife of two years, and son and his wife’s parents get along great.)
Another fave:
“Make the most of it!” – stressed when leaving our son at college his first year. (He had a history of underachievement.)
Also LOVE “Not my circus, not my monkeys,” which I learned here years ago. Comes in handy with launched and partnered adult child situations.
From my mother:
“I never regretted anything I did, only things I didn’t do.” (She loved to travel.)
“Strong, calm, kind.” adopted from Liz on the (fabulous!) podcast ‘Safe for Work’.
“Don’t give up what you really want, for what you want in the moment. “
I had this quote at my office desk to remind me when to keep my mouth shut, my head down and remember what was most important. To me at that time, it was to continue working PT. What I wanted in several moments was to tell off my boss!
Fun to read this stuff. A couple I like that haven’t been mentioned
Do you want to be right or be married? (Good to remember during silly arguments)
Pretty is as pretty does (this from my grandmother)
Always try to be big (meaning do the right thing, even if others are not)
Practice makes perfect - not sure where this one is from but it always comes back to me whenever I’m struggling with something for the first time.
“Proper prior preparation prevents pi__-poor performance.” I love this, and it applies to many/most? situations.
“Credit and reputation–two things easier to maintain than repair.”
I’ve used this one at least a few times in the past 2 years:
“When they go low, we go high” - Michelle Obama
Right is right even if nobody is doing it, and wrong is wrong even if everybody is doing it.
Always keep your two feet on the ground.
Follow your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t.
Be true to yourself. Don’t try to be something you’re not.
Don’t compromise on your values.
Be genuine and sincere in your actions.
'Women who behave rarely make history"
“Don’t sweat the small stuff”
“Treat others the way you’d like to be treated”
“If you don’t have something nice to say, say nothing at all”