Pessimist Mom getting on my nerves... What should I do?

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<p>Wow, thank you all guys! Yesterday I felt depressed, but your posts really cheered me up. I’m glad to see at least some people understand my situation.</p>

<p>And, yes, I am an asian boy of age 17 living in VT. My relationship with my mom doesn’t bother me as much as some occational conflicts. I got used to her style long time ago. Some of you are concerned with my family relationship, I have to say that there is definitely no problem with that between my mom and I. Also, I’m glad someone brought up the topic about how things can work against you if you call everyday. I felt lucky b/c she was only calling the financial aid office in ABCDE university…</p>

<p>Here was one of the situations among all the colleges I applied to: I signed up for a Jan. 11th administration of TOEFL exam. But those ignorant fools in Prometric testing center and ETS forced us to a rescheduled exam due to some “emergency” issues. I guess it’s OK for ETS to make mistakes since they are the big monopoly in these fields… anyway, they rescheduled me to Feb. 14th. As I applied for scholarship in XYZ University, the test was rather later for their decision. So, my mom called the scholarship director 5 days in a row to check the status of my TOEFL exam. Although I guess she can’t take the blame b/c i did make some mistakes along the way, but that’s what she did.</p>

<p>I can fully understand her stress about the money situation, and most importantly, my future; and i can also understand her stress. But it put tremendous pressure on me. </p>

<p>Drosselmeier, I agree with your. There’s definitely room for growth within me. But I’m just not the kind of person who would sit down quietly with my mom and “hugs her and try to soothe her stress” — although I totally understands my mom. So, I always try to reduce her anger by taking all of them within me, which works. But i often feel stress as the result.</p>

<p>That’s all i gotta say, hope my mom doesn’t see this post :D</p>

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<p>Yeah. I gathered all this. As I said, use your personality to get the same thing across to her. That’s pretty much how I might do it because I communicate a lot through touch (only with those I love). But you may have some way to comfort your mom than is more meaningful to you both. Whatever you do, try not to leave her out there to fight this alone. Get in there and work this stress with her. If she feels you and she are united and that you will be just fine no matter what, she may just calm down. It worked for me.</p>

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<p>I dunno. I know some guys who do this. Never share anything, take it all in. The disadvantages seem to outweigh the advantages as far as I can see. But that is just the way I see it. Whatever works for you.</p>

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<p>Haha. I hope she sees it. :slight_smile: I also hope you get into the school you want. Good luck, and hang in there.</p>

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<p>Honestly, I think you’re lucky. My parents are way too OPTIMISTIC. They believe that I’m going to get into at least one of the HYPS schools and I’m so freaked out about disappointing them. Better to prove a pessimistic mother wrong than to disappoint an optimistic one, I say.</p>

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<p>Mitsu I feel you on so many levels. It’s not just my parents though it’s my entire family. I wasn’t the “golden child” in high school (freshman year especially) that I once was…and they still all think I’m going to Brown or something.</p>

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<p>Hmm, admissions/financial aid officers know better than to sound pessimistic or depressed if the person was rejected, I doubt they’d give it away. Usually it’s just been a long day for them and they’re tired; at least this is what I’ve heard from the USC forum.</p>

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<p>If that’s the case, I dont blame them. They probably got many of the parents just like my mom calling everyday!</p>

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<p>hah…my parents dont even know where i’m applying…</p>

<p>I guess the only part they’ll know is the college that i’m actually about to go to when I am actually leaving for that place…LOL!</p>