<p>Debatemom, I want to give you {{{{HUGS}}}}</p>
<p>What you are going through is so hard, but you are doing a GREAT JOB with some of the hardest work a mom ever has to put in, that is watching your boy suffer (from a distance no less), holding back your own tears while you listen to him shed his, knowing that the best thing for him is to give him the time to get through this rather than swoop in and rescue him. </p>
<p>You have called in the support system at his school (good move), and you should know that these folks are very experienced at evaluating homesick kids and knowing when enough is enough and it just isn’t a good fit. They don’t want him to suffer any more than you do. So if they’re saying it’s too early to call it, then you can trust them. </p>
<p>You should also know that more often than not, a kid will call home and let loose with everything that’s bothering him or upsetting him, all the injuries, little and great, the tears and anger, just so that he can “return to the trenches” with a bit more aplomb. It isn’t very easy for the parents (no kidding!) but it is a valuable service you are providing to his growth and independence.</p>
<p>I think Tapper’s post (#10) is absolutely invaluable, full of good advice and wisdom. And if you can guide your boy to undertake some of the steps that she outlined, he will be able to help himself out of some of his sadness which will be the best of all possible things.</p>
<p>In the meantime, just hang in there. You’re doing great, and your strength is an example to us all.</p>