<p>Rainbow, I’d just like to add that I was suggesting that you meet with a qualified psychologist, who deals a lot with adolescents, not your guidance counselor at school, althouth he/she might be able to help you find a psychologist. I’m sure that such a therapist may eventually suggest that you share aspects of your situation with your GC, but I think you need more than what a GC can offer. Also, you need to talk about any abuse with this therapist, including the nature of your mom’s conversations with you, which I think are completely out of bounds.</p>
<p>Finally, I’m not an expert on this, but I think you have a voice in where you live after the divorce. This should not be used as a threat, but I think a therapist can help you determine where you will be best cared for. Good luck, and please let us all know how you are doing. Remember, this isn’t your fault or your responsibility.</p>
<p>At our hs, there is a licensed social worker - excellent counselor. If you have such a resource at your school, Rainbow, I think this would be an easy place to start. More appropriate, as others have said, than a GC. At any rate, someone at your hs can likely guide you toward the right resource. If not, try your physician or another trusted adult. If a teenage friend is seeing a therapist for any reason, that might be anothe person to try.</p>
<p>Thank you for your responses everyone. We have a social worker at my school, so I’ll try to talk to her tomorrow. I’m living with my dad in Virginia (my mom moved to Florida), and will continue to live with him when the divorce is finalized. I’m hoping to go to college in VA (William and Mary) but if I don’t get in I may have to go to a school in Florida where I have already been accepted. My mom called and left a message saying that she wanted me to call her back, so hopefully things will go well. Again, thank you so much for your responses, you’ve really helped me. ^_^</p>
<p>I’m very gald to hear that there is physical distance between you so it will be easier for you to avoid hearing further details that are inappropriate for you to hear. Please spare yourself further discomfort by refusing to hear them. Take care of yourself. You deserve it!</p>
<p>Rainbow, I want to say that I am very concerned about the possibility that you would go to college in Florida. I was wondering why your parents, as I think you said, perhaps on another thread, would require you to apply only to W & M and the Florida school.</p>
<p>Now, having learned that your Mom is in Florida, I understand.</p>
<p>But I am really unhappy and worried about the prospect of you being in Florida, away from your Dad, and, presumably, close to your Mom. I urge you to find alternatives that are not in Florida. In fact, given what you have told us, if you are not admitted to W & M, and you are not able to arrange anything outside of Florida, then IMO you should take a gap year or attend a community college in Virginia.</p>
<p>IMO, given what you have told us, under no circumstances should you being living so close to your Mom and away from your Dad.</p>
<p>And, one sign of emotional abuse is sudden switching back and forth between hostile and friendly behavior. IMO do not naively and simply accept friendly overtures from someone who has proven herself to be abusive in the past. Instead, work with your counselor/therapist to determine when, if ever, such overtures can be copnsidered genuine.</p>
<p>Also: in Florida you would have to deal with her new lover. That is a new source of risk to you.</p>
<p>IMO, if there is any chance of you going to Florida, you absolutely must not tell your Dad anything. Your Mom could make your life in Florida a living hell.</p>
<p>Again: IMO you must not go to school in Florida.</p>
<p>Please keep us posted. We all care about you.</p>
<p>Thank you. I agree with what you’re saying about not going to school in Florida, I really have my fingers crossed about WM, and most of the people who I have talked to seem to think that I will be admitted, but I’m not sure at all. If not, I’m almost considering staying at my high school for a fourth year (I skipped my junior year), taking more AP classes, and then re-applying to WM for the fall of 2007. I’ll keep posting here, and thank you again!</p>
<p>Considering what you are up against, rainbow, you have chosen a very appropriate screen name ! As ADad says, please keep us posted, both after your meeting with a counselor this week, and about your college status. All the best!</p>
I agree with what you’re saying about not going to school in Florida, I really have my fingers crossed about WM, and most of the people who I have talked to seem to think that I will be admitted, but I’m not sure at all. If not, I’m almost considering staying at my high school for a fourth year (I skipped my junior year), taking more AP classes, and then re-applying to WM for the fall of 2007. I’ll keep posting here, and thank you again!</p>