<p>I talked to mine after the first Groton incident. We talked about doing one’s best, but remembering to keep it all in perspective. We try not to pressure her. We’ll be happy if she does her best and graduates. She has related that a lot of kids feel pressured to do well by their parents. Of course I want her to do well, but I’d much rather have her doing it for herself than to please us. We make sure to tell her we love her no matter what. And to reach out to someone if she starts feeling overwhelmed. So far, so good. She seems to be doing well, getting sleep, has friends, well-adjusted, etc. </p>
<p>I suppose I should talk to her also about reaching out to an adult on behalf of others should she become concerned about any of her classmates.</p>