<p>I was considering options for population control by limiting the number of biological children per couple. Details aside, my question for CC is about gender. How important is gender to you?</p>
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<li><p>If there was no limit (like now) and you wanted a son, would you (the couple) continue to conceive until you had a boy? At what point would you stop and settle with only girls?</p></li>
<li><p>If you had reached the limit on biological children without having a son, how disappointed would you be with settling for adoption?</p></li>
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<p>Or…</p>
<p>Do you not consider the gender or biological status of your children important to you?</p>
<p>Side question: Would gender be less important to you if there was no tradition of last name inheritance from the male in a heterosexual marriage?</p>
<p>I refuse to answer these questions because they are sexist, and assume disappointment only if unable to have a son, and not a daughter.</p>
<p>JERK!</p>
<p>Dude, what year are you living in? We’re not in the 1600’s. Get with the times gotakun</p>
<p>I think those are good questions…I don’t have an answer for them since I’m honestly not even thinking about having kids right now, but I disagree with the two people above me that they’re irrelevant/sexist questions. I mean…In China, people are only allowed to have one child and most want boys.</p>
<p>Lol, I totally misread the title of this. I thought it said “When you are children, how important is gender?” Oops!</p>
<p>Anyway, I dislike the idea of population control, but realistically something has to give…Earth can’t possibly support a human population that’s exponentially growing and constantly killing off other organisms in order to live comfortably and expand…</p>
<p>I’d love my child regardless of the gender, but preferably I’d like to have a son :p.</p>
<p>I think these are valid questions with regards to population control. I have two children and my first was a boy. Personally, I did not have a gender preference for my first child, but both sets of grandparents and my husband strongly preferred a boy. For my second child, I very much wanted a girl, while the rest of the family, husband included, had no real preference. My second child was a girl, so we were done. Had my second been a boy, I might have had a third child, but definitely no more than that, regardless of whether I had a boy or girl. Same scenario if my first had been a girl, I would have had no more than three trying for a boy. And I would have only had two girls if having a boy was not so important to my husband and his familly. </p>
<p>I would consider adoption, but my husband is not comfortable with the idea. He would not have agreed to an adoption in the event we did not have a biological son.</p>
<p>As far as gender being less important without the name inheritance tradition, I think that is true. My husband’s parents were much more open about their strong preference for a boy than my parent’s were. And I personally would have been completely happy with two girls.</p>
<p>Good luck with your research!</p>
<p>I would never have a biological child because, as a lesbian, I’d prefer my partner and I to be equally related or unrelated to our child. I’d adopt, and gender isn’t any issue for me now. If I want kids when I’m older, that’ll be something I really think about.</p>
<p>But for the sake of this question, pretending I want biological kids… Gender doesn’t matter to me at all, but if one mattered, I’d NEVER have more than two kids. I study biology, and for some reason, it’s made me more and more against the idea of leaving more kids than the number of people who will die off. Population is a huge problem, and I wouldn’t want to burden the world just because I wanted to get a son or daughter.</p>
<p>Thanks for the responses! Yes, I know we aren’t in the 1600s. Male preference is very real, even in modern society. It’s especially prevalent, as was mentioned, in China, where a “one-child” policy has already been implemented, which is why there are so many Chinese little girls up for adoption. Just because my example assumed there was male preference doesn’t mean I assumed everyone would prefer males. If you took it that way, maybe that was a manifestation of your own bias.</p>
<p>For future responses: This wasn’t meant to be a discussion about male preference or population control, but simply a poll with the aforementioned questions. It IS research, so I hope it doesn’t get too cluttered for me to easily organize it.</p>
<p>idk if i even want children yet.</p>
<p>but we need some population control imo. once health care is implemented you’ll start seeing trailer moms popping out 30 plus kids</p>