Popularity and dating/relationship

College Life
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<p>Sorry in advance for another relationship question :)</p>

<p>I am into this girl who is very active on campus, organizing many events & clubs etc. She is very popular with almost everybody. While I am not on the other end of the spectrum, I do not think I get as much attention from other people (i just sort of fit nicely in the background). We live in the same dorm and know each other (she even stayed in my room one night when she got locked out, but I didn’t make any moves). I tried to forget about her since i don’t believe I will get her, but this quarter i’m taking same class with her and she is now once again the only thing on my mind pretty much 24/7. </p>

<p>I would really appreciate some advice on this. Thanks.</p>

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<p>Tell her you’re interested, and go on from there.</p>

<p>Is it that complicated?</p>

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<p>I agree…approach her, tell her your interested, and see where it goes from there.</p>

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<p>Definitely work up the nerve to ask her on a date or talk to her about things. </p>

<p>There are few things more annoying than a guy appearing to be interested but never really coming out and saying how he feels either way. Don’t be one of those guys.</p>

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<p>i say first at least start talking to get to know her and gauge her interest.</p>

<p>then ask her out on a date or something.</p>

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<p>Of course it’s easy for the popular, charming guys who get lots of girls to say things like “just ask her out” No girl is going to want to go out with a guy just for the sake that he wants her to, especially if she is the popular type that everyone wants, and she can afford to be picky. You said you don’t get as much attention, so try being more active yourself. Do more activities and be commited to them without worrying what people think. A girl with a lot of leadership activities probably wants a guy who has similar if not more assertiveness. Work on your other friendships and building your resume. That way you will be more confident when presenting yourself rather than coming across as passive and needy when asking her out.</p>

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<p>If she’s sending signals engage her… if she’s not then don’t…</p>

<p>People really over analyze this dating thing… things are not that hard when you go with what feels natural…</p>

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as long as you’re not too dense to actually pick up on the signals, like a lot of guys are.</p>

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very, very true. it happens way too often.</p>

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<p>u have absolutly no chance, just give up</p>

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<p>Good post, mavsin. Katho, how many guys have you asked out? Or better, how many girls have you asked out? That’s what I thought.</p>

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<p>as far as being assertive and involved, that’s a great idea. also, just enjoy yourself without seeking someone out. i’ve always found I have the most success when I am “not trying.” As was said, I think we tend to overanalyze this sometimes and work too hard to “get the girl” and just end up shooting ourselves in the foot! On the other hand, though, you DO (ultimately) need to make the first move. It’s an art, not a science!</p>

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<p>Please dont try to be involved just to get this girl, if you do it with that in mind, she won’t like you anymore than she does now (maybe even less),</p>

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<p>I’m thinking this girl isn’t all that. I guess it’s my Gemini-ness, but you saying she’s got all these friends and is popular and all that…meh. You might be building her up in your head.</p>

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<p>Ok so I tried to approach her today about it but saw she is hanging out/sorta dating (i’m not sure) a guy on the varsity golf team. </p>

<p>maybe I should sit alone by some random lake tonight, play guitar and sing some soothing songs.</p>

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<p>Take her from him!</p>

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<p>I hope it makes you feel good about yourself to wrongly assume things about people over the internet.</p>