HImom, the couple can always get a postnuptial agreement.
“If I croak and my DH marries some trophy wife, I don’t what her getting half of my hard earned $. She can have my shoe collection. The $ goes to my kids .”
Lol, jym!! A trophy wife of Mr. is not getting any of my shoes either. 
Kiddos can figure out who takes what out of that closet based on their likes and fit. (I just imagined the look on the face of a lawyer who would be approached to draft a will including a shoe collection).
Yea, we are mainly concerned at this point as to how healthy D will get. It is hard to do estate planning with this major unknown. If she is, splitting things evenly seems like the way to go. If she won’t, that’s a very different scenario.
So far, H and I have always agreed about finances.
That trump trophy wife doesn’t deserve my shoes!! Of course H will argue that it doesn’t really matter since all she wears are lingerie and bikinis … The little sleaze!
LOL PG and BB. But BB, you have demonstrated in the clothes thread excellent taste in clothes and shoes, and I am cheap when it comes to shoes. I have a lot, but nothing fancy or $ (except some of my late moms Ferragamo’s) So the new arm candy can have my shoes. My DIL wont want them. And besides, she is a size 8. I am a 7.
Yea, but what is bimbo’s size? That’s the big Q! 
34DD, the sleaze bag 
Hey, be careful, I’m sure some of us CCers may be that size! What about her feet? A perfect 6 narrow? :-SS
I don’t think H is going to care about her shoe size :-).
Well then she won’t want my bras either. They might cover her knees… That’s about it…
Well, if your H is anything like mine, all he would want is a good cook and nursemaid. He really wouldn’t be interested in the other “trimmings.”
You’re cracking me up! :))
Well, laughter is best medicine and this topic is already pretty heavy–finances and marriage and divorce and death. :x
“I don’t think H is going to care about her shoe size”
She may care about his.
Doschicos has won the thread. Well done.
“Well, if your H is anything like mine, all he would want is a good cook and nursemaid. He really wouldn’t be interested in the other “trimmings.””
I’m a horrible cook and average nursemaid. My H is clearly not like yours
Well with my husband it wouldn’t be her shoe size it would be what her feet looked like. He has commented many times about how many women cram their feet into shoes way too small causing them to end up with ugly feet…
My H wouldn’t notice anything about feet unless they were missing.
I’ve had too much experience with nasty inheritance issues, unfortunately.
My daughter inherited money from two relatives. I’m not sure how much she’ll have left after grad school, but probably more than most twentysomethings. No college debt. She’s not in a longterm relationship, so this isn’t an issue now, but yes, I will mention a prenup if she ever gets engaged. And she’ll probably listen.
Why? Because the executer of one of the estates stole her inherited money. If you had asked that relative if that executer was to be trusted, she would have sworn on a stack of bibles that he was. Well, he wasn’t. He turned out to be an incredible sleezebag.
I have seen some very nice people become very mean people during divorces. I have been surprised by many divorces. I have seen other people who I thought were good and decent become nasty, manipulative and self-centered. I still have general optimism toward people that I meet for the first time, and I will probably assume that my daughter’s future husband will be decent and wonderful and good – but people change, can be influenced, or their true colors emerge under unforeseen circumstances. So, yeah, I’ll recommend a prenup.
Perhaps the hesitation about pre-nups may be due to the fact that many people do not look at the angle of marriage as a complex legal contract, and one whose default terms may change if the married people move to a different jurisdiction. How many people look at all of the legal rights and responsibilities associated with marriage (including termination of such a contract through either divorce or death) before they marry?
I view marriage as a purely legalistic thing and place just about zero sentimental value on it.
Still not interest or need for a pre-nup.