<p>The son of a friend is having his eagle scout ceremony in a few weeks. Is it customary to give a present? (If so, what?)</p>
<p>Thanks, o wise and experienced CCers.</p>
<p>S was an Eagle Scout and we were lucky that many family members were able to attend his ceremony. A few family friends as well. Not everyone gave him a gift but most did.
Since he was also a high school senior, cash or check was the popular choice. My sister gave him a beautiful compass from Scotland (?) though. In addition to a check, we gave him a handsome wooden box (I think I got in on the Scout website) that had an Eagle in pewter on it and we engraved the date on it too. Their website had a number of Eagle specific gifts. Another idea–he received a cool key chain in the shape of an eagle with his initials and date of the ceremony engraved on the back.</p>
<p>I must say, the ceremony was way more emotional and special than we expected. It turned out to be one of our life’s highlights. Congratulations to your friend and his son.</p>
<p>Thanks very much. I know they’re all so proud. Got a suggestion of eagle scout cufflinks from someone else–and he’s off to college next year. (So maybe I’ll get him a shirt with French cuffs for graduation??)</p>
<p>OP, I pm’ed you.</p>
<p>Parent of an Eagle here. A gift is not necessary, but a congratulatory card is a good idea. A congratulatory card with a small cash/check gift or a small giftcard enclosed would be VERY appreciated, I’m sure - but not required.</p>
<p>Some people brought ds a gift to his ceremony, some didn’t. I certainly didn’t expect anything from the families in the troop or teachers who wrote him LORs and such. Most presents came from family members.</p>
<p>My oldest son is an Eagle Scout. He got cards from some of the attendees and some of those included gift cards or checks. The local Boy Scout shop (attached to council headquarters) has suitable unique gifts too. Just the recognition of a card was good.</p>
<p>At my 2 nephews Eagle ceremony, most people gave cards with cash/checks in them. The amounts ranged from $50 - 250…depending on how well the person knew the boys.</p>
<p>People gave cards–often with money from $5 or 10 to one for $100. Some also gave other small items. I sometimes give t-shirts or dress shirts or small amounts of cash as well, depending. The reception is generally buffet meal at the lanai where the scouts regularly meet and often hosted by two new eagle scout families. It is a very heartfelt event.</p>
<p><running out=“” to=“” the=“” card=“” shop=“” now!=“”></running></p>
<p>The scout stores have lots of nice ES/BSA memorabilia. If you are especially close to the scout (ie parent), you could applique all of the patches he has onto a wool blanket that the scout stores sell. You could also commission a quilt that incorporates the Eagle’s patches, tshirts, and beads.</p>
<p>One of the best gifts our Eagle received—a very nice book on leadership (by John Maxwell–not coming up with the title) inscribed with kind words. He still refers to it several years later. I’ve ‘stolen’ this idea a couple of times myself.</p>
<p>Hey, am I the only one? Nobody around here gives gifts at Eagle ceremonies. Families may privately give gifts to their Eagle, but no one here expects to get gifts from people attending the ceremony. Maybe that is because a large proportion of the attendees are other scouts and their families.</p>
<p>Do you know the scoutmaster or anyone else in the scout’s troop you could ask? Apparently traditions vary.</p>
<p>MissouriGal, You said what I was thinking. Traditions vary. Both sons are Eagles and I have been to many ceremonies. Where we are, gift giving is not very prevalent beyond immediate family. A ceremony, families and the troop getting together and acknowledging the accomplishment with a small reception after is common but major gifts are not common or expected.</p>
<p>Congratulations to your son achieving Eagle! My son is finishing everything just in time for his 18th birthday. I mentioned the Eagle Scout Ceremony and he expressed a really negative attitude (which is not like him). Now he’s saying he does not want to have any ceremony at all. Can anyone who has experienced this share. Do they need to have ceremony? What is the structure?</p>
<p>I love the card and book ideas.</p>
<p>Some kids and families in our troop have gone together on a ceremony if they are friends and finishing up close to each other. Some older kids sometimes have just gotten the Eagle presented at the same time as a regular Court of Honor if they didn’t want to make a big ceremony of it. I would check with the scoutmaster about their expectations in regard to a ceremony.</p>
<p>S isn’t keen on ceremonies of any kind, especially ones that put him squarely in the spotlight. We were able to negotiate a double-Eagle ceremony where he and a friend received theirs together. It worked well to share with the other family the plans to provide refreshments, put together the programs, and insure a decent sized crowd. But mostly it actually seemed to help the boys feel more at ease since they both are low key types. </p>
<p>Turned out to be a fabulous idea and I know that in spite of themselves 
both boys really appreciated the ceremony and the outpouring of pride and congratulations that they received that day.</p>
<p>For our troop, it was much more common for joint ceremonies (usually two boys) than singles. I believe there were even a few trios, but mostly two and a few singles. It seemed everyone was relieved that way–the honorees to share the spotlight, the troop to have fewer ceremonies, and the families so they could combine resources and have a nicer, less costly reception (generally a nice buffet dinner).</p>
<p>My D and I went to an Eagle ceremony for her then boyfriend (must have been close to 10 years ago lol) and it never occurred to us to bring a present. It was a very touching ceremony, however, and I was happy to know him and the family. His mom and I agreed he was a real “boy scout.” </p>
<p>Which any mom would be happy to have her daughter date. ;)</p>
<p>My son only received gifts from some very close friends and family. Generally, in our area, gifts are not given.</p>