<p>Ok, so I started dating this guy at the beginning of the year for about 2 months. I thought I was playing the game right by letting him initiate the dates. He seemed really into me, told me I was beautiful and special. Then out of nowhere, he drops me, ignores me. I am confused and hurt. I waited almost a week before trying to initiate conversation with him again. What is going on? Do guys often do this?</p>
<p>Don’t expect too much of people, a lot of times you will only be let down.</p>
<p>perfectly normal, actually.</p>
<p>Let it go 
Guys are absolute jerks for most part. They just crave the attention and touch of a woman.</p>
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<p>Keep telling yourself that honey, when you’re forty years old, living all alone in a rundown apartment with ten cats, and are developing a handicapping mental illness. </p>
<p>Sweeping and idiotic generalizations about men and women aside, have you tried asking this guy about the reason behind his behavior? Has he said anything?</p>
<p>From my experiences while young, I am guessing that he found another girl whom he liked more than you, and he was too shy or insensitive to let you know that he had moved on. Since he lacked guts or is very insensitive, you are better off without him. </p>
<p>Not all guys act like he did. Decent people will break off a relationship with courtesy and kindness. The break-up will still hurt, but at least the person who was dumped will know that the relationship is over.</p>
<p>You have to understand that pretty much 9 out of 10 relationships in college aren’t “real” or “serious” to the guy as much as girls like to think they might be. Sure, some stick for quite awhile and some may be more serious than others. But guys typcally don’t take these sorts of college relationships seriously and uually just want the best of both worlds (dating one girl, hooking up with many). So they tend to flip-flop back and forth between the two. Hooking up with girls get old and guys want a steady thing where they have some sort of emotional connection with on girl. Then the steady thing gets old because you feel like your a prisoner while all your friends are having fun. I have been dating a girl for 2 years in college and a part of me would love to just drop her so I can actually live the “college” life just for little while. I haven’t had “fun” at a party in 2 years. I consider just ending it, but I realize that what we have is something really special and it will be gone if I make such a dumb decsion. But to most guys who have only been dating a girl for a few months, it doesn’t seem like a stupid decision. Don’t expect too much. You are only in college and you are only a kid still.</p>
<p>yeah, sounds pretty common. don’t take his words for granted. just ignore him back.</p>
<p>My Two Cents:
Screwed. Deranged. Loss.</p>
<p>I hope it worked out well in the end. I hope you called him and hooked up. He deserves that special attention after you’ve ignored his feelings for so long.</p>
<p>Guys are, in general, dumb, when it comes to girls and girls’ feelings. (so say even my guy friends) Don’t let it bother you too much. I’ve had something similar happen to me recently. You’re better off without the loser anyway.</p>
<p>you are genetically predisposed to seek out attachment and commitment while he is genetically predisposed to seek out numerous mates in order to improve the passing of his hereditary traits. whoops!</p>
<p>he found someone “better”</p>
<p>Despite what everyone else is saying that he found someone else…it’s possible. But I highly doubt it unless you’ve seen him with another girl. </p>
<p>You let him initiate the dates for a while, but by two months, you should be saying “hey, lets do this”. Most guys are looking for signs that you are as into them as they are into you. I’ve been in relationships where it seems I’m constantly asking the girl if she wants to do something, and even if she always says yes, after awhile it gets frustrating to ALWAYS be the one who is asking, to ALWAYS be the one who is making the phone calls, to ALWAYS be waiting for the other person to say “yes”. </p>
<p>It sounds like he got tired of it, and was trying to test how quickly you’d call him back. </p>
<p>You failed.</p>
<p>If you really were interested in the guy, you should’ve shown it to him. If you were deliberately playing hard to get, he probably sensed that you were insincere. I despise the old-school mentality about relationships.</p>
<p>sanjenferrer makes the only legitimate post in this thread aside from my earlier one</p>