<p>Whew. I love the voices of reason on this board. Thanks to both of you. All of your advice is much appreciated. I guess I am still trying to strike the balance of how to stay in the loop with out being in the way! LOL And so much IS going well: she has loads of friends, made varsity and has already scored 3 goals. I think she thinks she is at summer camp… haha.</p>
<p>For what it is worth, I have steeled myself to let things happen. It is (in my opinion) now the time for her to step up as she needs to in order to attain HER goals. I am mostly concerned about making sure the support is there for her - whether she wants it or not! LOL Seriously, I know she wasn’t happy with the report. I wasn’t overly thrilled, but had prepared myself for worse so all-in-all it is easy for me to stay out of it. </p>
<p>Because she was so completely stressed about these “grades” even before she knew what they were, my approach is to let her own stress be the guide and try (key word: TRY) not to say much at all. I was actually proud of myself for praising the hardest subject and ignoring the rest. So. Very. Hard. LOL. I know there is pressure already in her environment from many areas. In a complete turnaround to my previous approach, I am trying hard to see that her way forward is now up to her. </p>
<p>Be that as it may, I am mindful that these kids don’t always handle the pressure well, nor do they always see the way to change or even know what is out there. At 14 they still seem to think that “no one” studies. Everyone is either brilliant or not. I keep mentioning the “hard work will get you far” thing, but so far I have not had her take me up on that! Kidding. Sort of. She is working very hard… harder than she ever has, but she will learn that it may not yet be enough. </p>
<p>I guess I am hoping the school will spell that out to her so I don’t have to. She will take it far better from anyone there, than from me! Haha.</p>
<p>Thanks again for the hand holding. I appreciate it.</p>