<p>Prom is in june on a friday before the SAT exam (sorry juniors) A group of about 20 seniors are meeting some place to take pictures. After that all of them are going for dinner and then to prom. Some of the girls are getting their hair and makeup done prior to that. Really had to budget everything because there are so many events that go along with graduation- senior trip, prom, bacheloreate, graduation, and grad allnight party. After that attending all the grad parties scheduled this summer. One girl booked a limo and made a nonrefundable deposit on it without telling anybody so everyone was surprised when she finally told everyone the costs since it was never finalized that a limo was even needed because some kids wanted to rideshare. This created a big mess. For those riding the limo it turned out to be quite overbudget. We decided on ridesharing with parents helping out. It seemed like some of the kids had unlimited budgets for prom. </p>
<p>I hadn’t heard of “promposals” until a couple weeks ago. There was a write up in the local paper where a student had “will you go to prom with me” spelled out in sausage on a pizza. :x </p>
<p>This is the best “promposal” I have seen…ever. </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2014/05/30/dnt-cerebral-palsy-student-meets-robert-griffin-iii-and-gets-prom-date.wjla.html”>http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2014/05/30/dnt-cerebral-palsy-student-meets-robert-griffin-iii-and-gets-prom-date.wjla.html</a></p>
<p>“A 17-year-old with cerebral palsy was asked to prom with the help of his favorite football player, Robert Griffin III.”</p>
<p>A not particularly cool/ not at all handsome junior boy who D has known through drama for years asked a far more popular/ gorgeous girl to junior prom that he was hopelessly in love with by having different male choir members give her a rose each period. The plan was for him to reveal himself the last period and ask her to prom with the final rose. Unfortunately no one asked ahead of time and when this poor kid revealed himself and handed her the final rose as the other guys serenaded them, the girl ran out of the room crying. It was a no. D was a senior and went as his replacement date. It was sad and awkward for all involved. </p>
<p>Learned a lesson this year – don’t shop for the prom dress the week before the prom. By then, most of the dresses are gone, even on the clearance rack and in consignment/second hand stores. D1 had something she was willing to wear as a back-up, but it seemed a bit simple and serious for a prom.</p>
<p>D1 picked up something that was not exactly what she was looking for, but ok and not expensive, the day before the prom. It ended up looking great after I shortened it a few inches. The afternoon of the prom. Yikes. Then I used some of the material I cut off to make a bow tie for her friend. Finished that minutes before they had to leave. </p>
<p>D2’s prom was earlier, and we shopped for her far enough in advance to find something she liked a lot at a reasonable. price. Shoes were perfect and only $15 off the clearance rack, and D1 wore them to her prom too. I was happy that it worked out relatively easily, as she is my kid who owns one skirt and is most comfortable in the woods wearing hiking boots. Apparently there were a lot of double-takes at the prom when kids recognized her.</p>
<p>Both Ds went with groups of friends. In our town, at least among my Ds’ friends, there is no pressure to have a date. While lots of other kids had limos, my Ds’ groups were happy to save money by driving themselves or, in D2’s case, having parents drive.</p>
<p>I haven’t heard of any local big promposals, but that doesn’t mean there weren’t any.</p>
<p>Everything went off without a hitch. They both looked amazing & had a fabulous time. They did the after prom at a local sports plex (laser tag, go carts, video games and the like), lots of chaperones, teachers/administrators, they checked the bags for alcohol and other popular after prom “goodies”. That ended at 2am, they then went to a local diner, and hung out, ate and had a great time until 5am. I think the best part for them was getting home at the crack of dawn & hearing the morning birds chirp! </p>
<p>Everyone had a blast and more importantly, made it home safe and sound. I didn’t sleep a wink, was up for well over 24 hours straight…so I’m utterly exhausted today. </p>
<p>Thanks for chiming in with your stories! </p>
<p>Her date is at his own prom this evening. I saw pictures on FB, he looks great! </p>
<p>My daughter bought her dresses on the internet, made her own corsages (and hosted a corsage making party, thanks to a youtube tutorial) and rode the motor coach hired by the school to take the kids to prom. Dinner was included. My son is wearing his dad’s tux (with a few pins to hold up the pants, because he is skinny). We’ll get his date a corsage and paid for both of their prom and motor coach tickets, since he has no money of his own. Boys are easier, but I don’t think there needs to be much drama with girls, either.</p>
<p>Corsage making party? How cool. Did they also make the whatever that thing is called for the guys? </p>
<p>We did not have much of a drama with either kiddo, but we live in a “chill” town. Baby kiddo did break up with her BF just before the prom, but she managed to go to 2 proms with her really good friends who were “dateless”. Dresses came from outlets and Cache (bought way in advance), shoes - from the web or mom’s closet, makeup and hair - from a local beauty academy. Mr B and I did have a couple of 3-hour sleep nights though, but that was just us.</p>
<p>My D went to both junior and senior proms. First gown was from Lord and Taylor and second gown from a small fancy dress shop in town. The gown was pricey but she did not buy new shoes or get her hair or makeup done at a salon- did it all herself. A friend drove a bunch of them to prom so there was no limo. The fun part for us parents were the pre-prom photos at various houses where we got to see all the beautiful couples dressed up. The stressful part was not the prom or preparation but the prom weekend that followed- most everyone drove down to the shore and stayed for the weekend. That was a hold your breath, nail-biting long weekend.</p>
<p>I saw pictures of the OPs daughter and she was absolutely stunning! Good job mom. <:-P </p>
<p>Awwww thanks!!! :x </p>
<p>So,glad it’s over @GA2012MOM </p>
<p>In our town the prom is a pretty big deal- girls all get rather expensive dresses, which they post online for others to see and make sure no one gets the same one, girls get their hair, make up and nails done so all in all pretty pricey. However, everyone meets on town hall lawn for pictures like the pre oscar red carpet, the kids have to take the coach busses hired by the school to the prom locale, so no limos or driving necessary, dinner is part of the evening and there is a free and very fun all night party at the high school planned and run by PTO to keep the kids busy and hopefully safe and not drinking. It’s also a weeknight so parents are exhausted picking them up at 5 in the morning!
Kids go in couples , with same or opposite sex friends or stag so that is also good- 2 years ago my daughter went with her then senior boyfriend, and this year she is the senior and went with her friends and she was just as excited and took it just as seriously both times.
So while I do wish the girls would chill a bit about finding the perfect dress, matching bag, or feeling they should get everything professionally done, the actual evening is all planned out for them and they all seem to have a great. time.
Still, much costlier and more elaborate preparations than when I went in 1980!</p>
<p>After reading 6+ pages of prom drama or non-drama, I’ve decided that D15 is on the right track when she says instead of going to the senior prom, she’d rather go out with her guy friends (about 5 of them) for a nice group dinner, see a movie and play some laser tag. She’s already proposed it and only one has balked at the suggestion.</p>
<p>A male friend of DD, who is a junior & goes to a different high school went to 5 or six proms in the past 2 weeks. :-t LOLOL, another went to 3. Talk about default date overkill! Lol DD actually was the match maker so to speak. Her female friends didn’t have dates and her male friends were open to escorting the girls to prom. They all had a great time and each looked couple looked beautiful. </p>
<p>My youngest son had senior prom about a month ago. He hasn’t gone to any other dances and doesn’t have a girlfriend. He heard that a girl was planning to ask him, so he asked her. She just wanted to go with this group of music/theater kids and was looking for someone who didn’t have a date yet. Although S isn’t dating this girl, and they are little more than acquaintances, he (we) did pay for all of their stuff (tickets, which are not expensive here), dinner, limo (most expensive thing), corsage, etc. It was a one-time thing, and I was happy for S to go with his friends. They all met for photos outdoors, the weather was nice–it was fun to meet all the families there taking photos. One family hosted an after-prom party–everyone donated food/drinks for that. S didn’t say much about it afterward. Honestly, I think it was sort of a letdown for him, but the photos are nice! Our two older sons never went to dances (all introverts. . .) so this will be my only experience having a son go to prom. Older D went with group of friends/no dates–very common here for large groups of friends to go together. Not too many “promposals.” (Still have 3 younger D’s to go, so more potential proms in the future.)
I never went to dances when I was in high school–they were just for “couples.” I did decorate for some, though!
H, otoh, was Mr. “Rent-a-Date.” He has a bunch of hs dance photos–some he can’t even remember who the girl was or what school she went to. </p>