<p>S2 is a HS Jr and will be attending the prom with his date and a group of friends. What is proper etiquette regarding who pays for what? Does the boy usually pay for his date’s ticket? Limo or bus? S1 attended a couple years ago, but I’ve already forgotten!</p>
<p>With my daughter, she paid for her boyfriend because she was the one who ask him to her prom. He then ask her to his prom and paid for her. When she was asked by another boy the year prior, he paid. I think the person who invites someone to the dance pays.</p>
<p>(no answers, just a vent!)</p>
<p>My S is at a private school where they have “prom” for the whole school. There are apparently some unwritten traditions among the kids about dates (who needs one, who is ‘allowed’ to have one) and transportation etc.</p>
<p>He told me he’s going but of course he hasn’t a clue and it’s coming up in 3 weeks!</p>
<p>I would add–Girl pays for boy’s corsage. I think when my D went to prom last year, all the kids (both male and female) chipped in for the limo.</p>
<p>When we went to prom like two years ago, we all went in a big group (some had dates, some not), and we all went dutch. For everything.</p>
<p>We drove ourselves though.</p>
<p>In CT, it has become even more common to rent limo/stretch vehicle of some sort. The new driving restrictions prohibit drivers from having anyone other than one parent or guardian for six months, then another six months where they can transport only one SIBLING/RELATIVE. So you cannot drive your date or friend unless you have had your license for a full year, so realistically not until minimum 17, but given driver’s ed etc, more likely 17 1/2. The kids generally split the cost if they all go the school.</p>
<p>My daughter goes to an all girl school, so all the girls had to do the inviting and the girls bought the tickets and the girls are splitting the cost of the vehicle rental. If some the guys offer to chip in that would be chivalrous!</p>
<p>My D is bringing her BF from another hs to her prom. She is paying for tickets and limo. (frankly, I think he could pay his share of the limo, but they were originally going to drive themselves until she got invited into the limo/party bus, he wasn’t crazy about the idea but she really wanted to be in the limo with her friends, so I told her I’d pay for his share). But next year, if they go to his prom, it will be on his dime. </p>
<p>Rule of thumb - whoever’s prom it is pays for the ticket. When DS went with a girl from his class/grade, they made a deal - he paid for tickets, she paid for photos. Each paid their own limo. But generally I’d say two kids, same school, same grade - each pay their own ticket.</p>
<p>Thanks, all-
I guess there aren’t necessarily ‘set’ rules, which is fine with us-- less opportunity to make a mistake! S2’s date seems to be more than ‘just’ a date, so am guessing they will work out the details together, but if the boys usually pay for the prom tickets, I want to make sure he does the right thing and offers.</p>
<p>Prom groups are the norm in my area. Sharing cost of limo, cost of afterprom activities (generally a beach rental).</p>
<p>Oh no, I forgot about that!
S1 and date just attended the prom, none of the after-stuff, which was a relief at the time.</p>