<p>I invited my friend from outside of school to my senior prom, and I bought both our tickets. What should I do when it comes to flowers (corsage/boutonniere)? Same thing, pay for both?</p>
<p>When my son went to the senior prom, he bought his date’s corsage, and she bought his boutonniere. Not sure if that is how it’s supposed to be done, but it made sense to me!</p>
<p>Yes, they buy each others’. To make sure you’re both on the same page simply ask what color/type the flower(s) should be.</p>
<p>Thank you. I guess what I meant to ask specifically was: If I invited a friend from outside of school to go to MY prom, should he be expected to pay for anything?</p>
<p>Whenever a girl from another school asks me to prom, which is kind of often for some weird reason, I will always get her a kick butt corsage, and she will get the boutonniere. She will usually pay for the tickets too. If you feel like there may be a problem, don’t be afraid to ask your date, it’s your prom, do what you need to make sure it runs as smoothly as possible, without being too much of a burden to your date. The less stress each side feels going in the more fun it will be for both.</p>
<p>If you are the inviter, and he doesn’t go to your school, I think the only thing he definitely should pay for is your corsage. </p>
<p>Last year my D had this exact scenario. Her boyfriend goes to another high school. She (well, really I) paid for both their prom tickets and both of their places in the limo. I think if we had asked him to pay for his share of the limo his parents would have paid, but I just decided it was D’s prom so we’d pay.</p>
<p>This year, the two of them went to his prom. The only thing D paid for was his boutonniere, he (or his parents) bought the prom tickets and paid for the limo. So it all evened out :)</p>
<p>(Our proms include dinner in the price of the ticket).</p>
<p>I agree, but guys may have a major expense in renting a tux, and I don’t think that’s ever anything the girl or her family pay for. If your date has to rent a tux, you might want to offer to pay for the corsage. One year my son’s date (his girlfriend at the time) clearly stated that she had a certain look in mind that was far more expensive than the basic black tux… more than his sister spent on her dress the following year!</p>
<p>dragonmom, the girl needs to buy a dress, which is about as expensive as the tux. </p>
<p>Tuxedo rental is outrageous. I bought my son a black suit for about what he’d pay for renting a tux for the prom.</p>
<p>jingle, good for you, and I’d like to have more Moms think about this (unless your kid is in a huge growth spurt). It’s often cheaper to buy a basic tux or plain black suit that can fill in as formal wear sometimes…than to rent one.
Plus, if your daughters are shopping for prom dates from the pool of their older friends - call on a music major. He’ll have the tux already and be more than happy to show up if college is over before the HS prom.</p>
<p>^Just throwing my two cents in here. I hate constantly renting tuxes, it gets so expensive for me (well my parents) and I know I could probably get a tux cheaper than what I pay to rent them, but I also like the chances renting tuxes leaves me to be creative. I like being able to wear a different tux each time and am able to get vests and ties to match the girls dresses. For that reason I actually won’t buy one until after prom season this year. I am sure they will probably be a little cheaper then too.</p>
<p>“Whenever a girl from another school asks me to prom, which is kind of often for some weird reason”</p>
<p>“I also like the chances renting tuxes leaves me to be creative. I like being able to wear a different tux each time and am able to get vests and ties to match the girls dresses.”</p>
<p>I think you’ve provided the not-so-weird reason why you get invited to so many proms!</p>
<p>I should amend my post above - the only things the invitee from the other school should pay for would be flowers for their date AND their tux rental/</p>
<p>S - who is a HS senior - is taking his long-time girlfriend to the prom. She is a junior. Do you think it would be ok if I asked her parents to bring her to our house so that we can take pictures before going to the pre-prom party? We could all head over to the pre-prom after that. I know it is usual for the boy to go to the girls house to pick her up, but it is my sons prom and I would like to get some pictures of both of them at our house before we go to the pre-prom. What do you think?</p>
<p>If you asked a boy who has been to these kind of things before, he’ll know to get you a corsage. Tell him the colors of your dress.</p>
<p>However, if he’s never been to a formal dance and has parents who might not “clue him in,” then either order your own corsage or give him a big hint…“I’d like my corsage to have pink baby roses and baby’s breath and white ribbon.”</p>
<p>michone, I wouldn’t be offended by an invite like that. It is HIS prom, and it seems quite friendly to me.</p>