Purity Balls for Fathers and Daughters, why nothing for the moms or sons?

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<p>Okay, I find this whole thing bizarre, so I posted two links. But my big question is, don’t boys have a party as well to tell mommy they are virgins and promise to stay that way unitl they get married…</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/gate/archive/2006/05/12/notes051206.DTL[/url]”>http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/gate/archive/2006/05/12/notes051206.DTL&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p><a href=“http://generationsoflight.myicontrol.com/generationsoflight/index.cfm?ID=C7D9C98F-F39B-4721-82312665A131C364[/url]”>http://generationsoflight.myicontrol.com/generationsoflight/index.cfm?ID=C7D9C98F-F39B-4721-82312665A131C364&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>THis is about the new study about abstinence pledges and how they do not work</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2005-03-18-sex-study_x.htm[/url]”>http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2005-03-18-sex-study_x.htm&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>I’m just wondering what Stephen Colbert would do with the concept of “Purity Balls” . . .</p>

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<p>got to send it to him…I am sure I will get slammed for finding the whole thing creepy and sexist but I do</p>

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<p>LOL , I am sure Stephen Colbert will know exactly what to do with this topic. </p>

<p>I also find it creepy and sexist -</p>

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<p>My wife’s cousin had what you might call a “purity dinner” with his son. When his son started going steady with a girl, the dad took him to dinner to tell him what kind of behavior he expected of a teenage boy who was dating a teenage girl. This strikes me as less sexist and more productive than that mentioned in the OP.</p>

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<p>That is how it should be done, I have had similar conversations with my Ds…this whole saving her purity for her daddy to give away to another man is just creepy</p>

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<p>Eeeeeuuuuuw.</p>

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<p>Ewwww is right. That is just plain gross.</p>

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<p>I don’t like the idea of a man giving his d to another man. As a Catholic, we don’t believe in that concept (which is why at our weddings priests don’t ask “who gives this woman…”).</p>

<p>That said, I think it is a good idea of families (both mom AND dad) to stress to children of BOTH sexes the importance of NOT being promiscuous. Habits of “casual sex” are hard to break because self control has not been developed.</p>

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<p>I have never liked the thought that girls are supposed to remain “pure”, while boys are supposed to “sow their wild oats.” What a mixed message!! Who are the boys supposed to be “sowing” with if not girls who aren’t remaining “pure”?</p>

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<p>THere is a piece of jewelry they sell…the girl has a ring, with a keyhole, the dad has the key on a lapel pin, at the marriage ceremony, the dad pins the key onto grooms lapel, transferring protection and authourity of the bride to the groom- Dad holds the key to his daughters heart unitl marriage, these are the words from the site (the key actually works and inside is a message the girl writes to her FUTURE GROOM -see she can’t open the ring without daddy- saying she has her “gift” for him, whoever he may be)</p>

<p>It is just a step above a chastity belt with the high priest (what the dad is also called0 holding the key</p>

<p>blech</p>

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<p>I found this "alternative’ purity pledge…kind of like it:</p>

<p>i, the pure, sincerely pledge</p>

<p>I will seek the truth, and I will make my own choices.
I will take full responsibility for my own actions.</p>

<p>I will hold my own informed, intelligent judgment above anyone else’s.</p>

<p>I will hold my own genuine happiness as my highest moral purpose.</p>

<p>I will make every reasonable effort to learn the facts about my biology, psychology, and sexuality.</p>

<p>I will never let any person persuade me to have sex against my own judgment, attraction, or interest.</p>

<p>I will never allow another to control my sexuality or my perception of it.</p>

<p>I will never attempt to control someone else’s sexuality or perception of it.</p>

<p>I will never disvalue or consider impure my own precious body, emotions, or mind.</p>

<p>I will never engage in sexual activity without adequate protection against disease and pregnancy, based on what I have independently learned about the risks.</p>

<p>I will refuse to accept guilt for my natural interest in and admiration of the human body.</p>

<p>I will end my relationship with anyone who abuses me, my mind, my emotions, or my sexuality.</p>

<p>I will never blame mythical beings for my natural human responses, nor thank them for the good that I have created.</p>

<p>I will forgive myself for innocent mistakes, strive honestly to understand why I made them, make amends for damage I have caused myself or others, and work diligently to do better in the future.</p>