<p>taking stock of myself, i have realized i am kinda a self-destructive person, particuarly in regards to relationships. if a girl is into me, and we go out a few times and i like her, i try to push her away. my behavior becomes really uneven, i don’t call, i wait a long time before responding to texts/ims/calls, etc. i just act really sketchy. but this isn’t just with like one girl, its been with every girl i like, and then at the end of the day, i am alone and miserable. why is this? this pattern is not getting better, and it just depresses me because i am getting in my own way of happiness…</p>
<p>we want what we cant have</p>
<p>i highly recommend listening to simon and garfunkel’s “I am a rock.” it illustrates your dilemma all too well.</p>
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<p>hahahahahah. i actually LOL’ed. Umm, stop doing that? haha …</p>
<p>Do you listen to Pink Floyd by any chance?</p>
<p>Umm, on a more serious note, start reflecting on your actions…</p>
<p>I hope your problem is solved…</p>
<p>Uh, stop doing that? Respond more quickly to texts, etc. You kind of provided the answer to your question in your post.</p>
<p>it’s human nature to email-procrastinate like that,
i do it all the time</p>
<p>just explain it,
the more you feel like you want to respond to something,
the longer you put off responding to it
because you’re into her and you feel like it deserves a good response,
and sometimes if you explain it that way she’ll be like awww and forgive you</p>
<p>Or she’ll think you’re a total heel. </p>
<p>I guess I’m not human but I always try to respond to emails ASAP.</p>
<p>in truth i am just really awkwd. idk. when something gets difficult or I am confused or don’t know what to do, i just shut down, feel exposed, get down on myself, and just ignore the girl. it has not reaped good results. i have so much trouble reading social cues until it is too late.</p>
<p>I know how you feel, I’m like that with school work. I know I have the ability to do well, but I just don’t do it or I half ass it. </p>
<p>My advice is to stop thinking so much and respond to the texts/ims/calls. Just show you are interested in her. Call her up to meet for lunch or dinner. Even if you feel stupid or awkward or bad, just initiate some contact.</p>
<p>i just wish i didn’t shut down when i was confused or something went wrong.</p>
<p>listen to the song “Fall” by Something Corporate.
Rinse and repeat.
and stop being “sketchy” lol.</p>
<p>I’m so disappointed. I saw this thread title and immediately thought “oh boy, Home Depot project!”</p>
<p>^LOL I was expecting a rant about how he hates his roommate and wants to put up walls or partition the room somehow</p>
<p>anyway, I’ll leave the advice to the psych majors…but I think you have commitment issues :P</p>