Q to Indian parents, or those familiar w/ dance culture

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<p>I know this is <em>totally</em> unrelated to college stuff (except that when my younger S saw the invitation he said, “Wow, that’s got to look good on your college applications.” LOL!), but this is the most available set of diverse folks I know, so maybe someone can help me?</p>

<p>I am acquainted with a young woman at my S’s school who worked with my older S on a service project for several years. Her mother is also an acquaintance. I received an invitation yesterday for the girl’s Indian dance solo debut in a few weeks: she has been studying for years. The invitation itself is GORGEOUS (as is she in the photos!) and I am planning to attend, although I was not asked to RSVP. I am curious to know how formally I should dress for this event (I expect many saris in the audience, but will not be wearing one myself). Also, would I be expected to bring a gift for the young dancer? Are flowers appropriate, or perhaps something else? I would be happy to do so, but I know nothing about this part of the culture and would appreciate some guidance from those “in the know”! </p>

<p>I am very excited about this and looking forward to it. Also, any idea how long such recitals last, whether there is typically a reception afterwards, whether I could bring younger S (only my name is on the invitation), whether I should RSVP even though I wasn’t asked, etc etc… I assume no photos during the recital itself. Boy, I’m full of questions about this, maybe I should just call the mother and ask, LOL! Thanks for any information – PM is fine if you’d prefer not to post here. I now return you to your normal Cafe topics, already in progress. :)</p>

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<p>Mootmom, this will be an amazing performance, assuming it’s her “arengathram” (sp?).
Most of the Indian women will be in their finest silks and jewellery. I went to my neighbor’s recital, and wore dress pants and a lace shirt, and felt that I was fine. I don’t know if gifts are “expected”, but I brought a Mall gift card. (which teenager doesn’t appreciate that :)) And it seemed as if quite a few people had envelopes or wrapped gifts.</p>

<p>The dance could be 2 hours long. If it is in a school auditorium, I’m sure you can bring your son, though he may get bored. I believe there would be a small reception afterwards, with snacks and refreshments served.</p>

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<p>mootmom:</p>

<p>attended one last year – they can be lavish, or more casual. The one we attended lasted about 2 hours. Family members and friends brought food which was placed on tables in the lobby of a community center. The performance was held in a theater. Small gifts and flowers were common.</p>

<p>Dress was casual at this performance. But, I have heard of some lavish affairs at high end theaters. </p>

<p>RSVP is a nice idea – our friend’s D, at 18, was totally stressed that NO ONE would show up!</p>