Asheville, NC is extremely artsy and queer-friendly (and seems to have a punk scene), and UNC Asheville is an admissions safety that would make budget even before merit, and would probably give you some merit. The English major has concentrations in literature, creative writing, and teaching. The Mass Communication department, which houses film/media coursework, offers a major and a minor. It’s not generally considered a party school, but students partake in the local arts scene.
MCLA in Western MA would be a safety as well, and they have a reciprocity rate that includes New York, so the “sticker price” before merit would be only $34K/year. (It’s also a National Student Exchange school.) The English department offers a film concentration in addition to general, literature, and writing concentrations. It might be smaller than you want (1300 undergrads) but it’s close to Williams and Bennington, and has a cross-enrollment plan with them.
I think you have great choices on your current list, as long as your budget is flexible, because most of them are probably pushing the envelope a little on that front.
I agree that having a few NY publics on your list would be smart; you can assess the value-added of going out of state once you have offers and can compare actual costs.
Does English but not creative writing mean primarily a literature (and cinema) focus? Any particular career aspirations?