<p>The question is why would OP want to pick up the bill? Paying for a meal is no big deal (can’t imagine it would be that expensive), so why do it, especially with a perfect stranger. I always pay when I am with my parents or kids because I could better afford it. Between my friends, sometimes we take turns and sometimes we split. With people I don’t know, it is tricky. If I dress better than they do or drive a better can, it would appear that I am making a statement. Even if that’s not the case, it would look like I am trying too hard. </p>
<p>It is exactly about kids that I say do not offer to pick up the bill. Friendship is a delicate balance, especially in the beginning. By paying for someone, a message is sent, and everyone interprets it differently.</p>
<p>If it’s all about me, I would much prefer to pick up the tab because then I would be more free to order whatever I want to eat or drink, but for my kid’s sake I would split the bill.</p>