The Parchment info is the only public data of this kind available (apart from the Stanford faculty senate minutes that discuss Stanford cross-admits specifically). It seems difficult to draw robust conclusions from it, though, because, if I’m understanding the information on the Parchment site correctly, it looks like the respondents tend to come primarily from California and Michigan, which presumably distorts the results.
I would imagine, for example, that if a plurality of the respondents are from California, as seems to be the case, the comparisons are going to overstate the preferences for Stanford relative to the Ivies, given some assumed amount of home region preference by the respondents.
Also, I’m not sure how Parchment deals with, say, students who are admitted to Harvard, Stanford and Yale and choose Harvard. Presumably, this is a cross-admit win for Harvard over Stanford, but it’s also a Stanford-Yale cross-admit that ended in a tie. I don’t know if this is counted anywhere.
There’s a similar problem inherent in the Stanford faculty senate data; basically, it’s impossible to tell from the outside how much double counting there is among cross-admits because they may be cross-admitted in multiple places with Stanford.
Based on the available info, I’m going to guess that there are at most a couple of hundred cross-admitted students in any pair of the HYPSM schools (and probably considerably fewer in most cases). Each of these schools admits something like 2,000 kids a year, and has a yield roughly between 70%-85% (which means that they’re largely admitting different groups of kids).
It seems unlikely to me that any of these schools wins in cross-admits over any other by more than 80:20. So, really, the difference between the actual cross-admit result of any pair of schools and splitting their cross-admits 50:50 is at most something like 60 kids a year (30% * 200), or roughly 3% of those admitted by any of these schools.
If you had the actual numbers, you might conclude something about revealed preference from them, but I would agree with @hzhao2004 that the sample size is very small, and I believe the potential swing either way isn’t big enough to make a difference in the real world (although I’m sure it matters to these schools’ admissions offices).