So I finally remember this poster. Not a parent I think. I also think he purposely not spelling pizza girl right for a reason. It’s let the thread die, IMO.
Post # 5 here suggests an adult. http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/discussion/comment/18360647/#Comment_18360647
With undergrad from Harvard http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/discussion/comment/18517907/#Comment_18517907
I think all of our family members are on the risk-averse side.
Some posters here think it is more difficult to get admitted to a “tippy top” college now. I agree. But I have met someone who insists that nowadays it is easier to get into a tippy top college. To me, he seems to have been living either under the rock or in illusion.
It seems to me most children of reknown people perform worse than their parents.
OP, I’m sorry that you only consider your children successful if they go to a top 100 school.
Follow-up- I may be misreading past info- OP was Harvard both undergrad and Law school ? YOu are in your 40’s. Do you have kids approaching college?
@SlackerMomMD, @ucbalumnus: I do think that sending monthly support to your adult children who hold a job (besides true emergencies) is enabling and will not do them a favor at all. A lot of teachers have additional part-time jobs or tutor for extra income … Once you are in your 40s or 50s, it would be very late to learn to live within your means. Now, in our case I think it is a combination of factors: guilt over early divorce, cultural expectations (middle class parents in my husband’s and his ex-wife’s country buy their children a starter apartment when they get married), and simply going the easier route of not saying “no.” It is me, the vile stepmom, who had to lay out a final date in the near future due to retirement and upcoming college costs for our daughter.
But this is really besides the point. I just brought it up because financial support for older adult children makes the perceived underachievement so much harder on the parents. Maybe not harder but more present … I think the lack of advanced degrees from good universities would irk the parents less, if the sons would a) put in the effort they are capable of and b) be financially independent after college.
I truly hope to be able to convey to my daughter that while it is great to get into a highly selective college, a state university could be a great choice, too. More importantly, I hope to show her how satisfying it is to be able to pay one’s own bills and to learn to budget and stay within your means. I remember when I got my first real paycheck in 1989 and went ahead and paid rent and utilities for the first time.
Several posters brought up the topic of happiness in our children and I do agree. There has to be a healthy balance between work and play. While reading some of these posts, it made me think of a recent NYT article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/12/opinion/sunday/frank-bruni-best-brightest-and-saddest.html
How sad is that … I would rather have my kid and even my stepsons on the couch forever …
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Jym, he is an adult but not a parent.
Thanks drgoogle. Seems to be about 20 yrs into law career. Wonder what on cc is so compelling to someone without kids. Well we are a bright community-- regardless of where we went to school.
Maybe we should turn the table on this happy person. Which successful people graduated from Harvard, frequent an Internet forum worrying about other children that are not yours.
Vanderbilt and Cornell ain’t so hot.
@jym626, no, your information about me is not fully correct; re-read the posts that you linked to.
Not interested in having a fight on an Internet message board; you and DrGoogle are now blocked so I will respond no more to you both.
Why don’t you just clarify it for us? Lol he starts a contentious thread and then claims to not want a fight after trying to bait pizza girl too. Too funny.
Thank you!
Really, inquiring mind want to know. Why would a successful person who graduated from a prestigious school and who are happy about his/her life cares about other people children. Is this for gossip purpose only? I mean who cares. I certainly would not if I’m not a parent.
So my conclusion is that person is not happy and not successful. Really successful people don’t have time for this sort of nonsense.
Gotta love it, drgoogle?
I read another post that there are a lot of depression among lawyers, I can’t quote easily on this iPad, but perhaps this is one of the case. Really happy people don’t care.
Since thread is really going nowhere and the moral of the story is love the kid you have not the idealized one you wish you had o guess it is time to close the thread