<p>Oh, my gosh, I am loving the above posts.</p>
<p>My brother just emailed me frantically, as Mom is still waiting on her evaluation and wondering what’s going on.</p>
<p>I told him I am as much in the dark as they are.</p>
<p>Mom’s doctor sweetly told her last week, Oh, you can stay here as long as you want! Sure, wouldn’t she like that. She’s not paying for it!</p>
<p>I can just see Mom now, cursing up a storm, how we’ve railroaded her into “a place”! Katrina was beyond her control, but by golly, she’s going to get her ombudsman on the phone right now and have us arrested! </p>
<p>Poor thing can’t see, so she makes empty threats.</p>
<p>As for taking good care of them, oh, yes, indeed, these facilities do do that. They know where their bread is buttered. In the “old days”, when your parent went into “a home”, they were dead in six months or less. I hate to be so candid, but we had no idea that Mom would live this long in “one of those places”.</p>
<p>This activities of daily living thing is so frustrating. They’re too well to go to a nursing home, but too bad off to live on their own.</p>
<p>As for medication, we’re in the same boat. Mom is on Depakote, and if left to her own devices, she would just not take it. Even though she may have been physically able at times to require a lower level of care, we’ve always paid for the highest plan, because it entailed a nurse giving her her meds and making sure she took them. She was once on Seroquel as well after a psychiatric hospital stay, but she refused to continue taking it, as it made her sleep, so the doctor took her off it. She really would benefit from it, as she only sleeps two hours a night, and it would give both her children and her facility’s staff a lot more peace of mind.</p>
<p>Also true about the Day 14 care plan. On admission, I was told there would be a 14 day care plan. When one wasn’t called, I assumed Mom was on track to be released by Day 20, and since I live out of state, I didn’t rush over there asking for one. I’m figuring we’re getting our Day 14 care plan a little late, by about 10 days by the time it rolls around.</p>
<p>As stated above also, there is the matter of them no longer benefitting from therapy, or plateauing. I guess that is similar to the term “maximum medical cure” that I hear in my legal work. So, mom can just continue on a status quo, but not be qualified for medicare paid skilled nursing, but also not able to do activities of daily living to qualify for assisted living. Where does she go then? What type of facility? Is this where residential care comes in?</p>