<p>I have spent the last year trying to find a new stylist and have had nothing but bad haircuts. Luckily, with each cut I was able to style my hair to look decent until it was time to get a new cut with a new stylist. Yes, I’ve asked women with styles I like who their stylist is, but somehow my hair never came out looking like theirs. </p>
<p>Anyway, this last cut is absolutely the most ridiculous haircut I have ever received from a stylist. I showed her a picture of exactly the style I wanted, and, somehow, she managed to make me look like Moe from the Three Stooges. I asked for a cut to frame my face and she cut my hair to above my ears! I have a high forehead, and now I look like Herman Munster. No kidding. Seriously. I can’t style it. I can’t do anything with it. I am embarrassed to go out. My bff told me it looks like I took the scissors to my own hair. Great.</p>
<p>I am usually very assertive, but I have paid each and every stylist even though not a one of them gave me the haircut I asked for. This last one really bit my arse. </p>
<p>Question: Should I have paid her? How do you not pay? Ask for the manager? Has anyone else gone through this nightmare?</p>
<p>In my world, I would not worry too much even if she shaves my head, I would insist on free wig though and would never go back to her. Anything not so drastic, sometime I fix it myself with scisors, if I do not like it and tell my hairdresser next time what I did not like. He usually listens.</p>
<p>take in the picture you showed the stylist. take the scarf off your actual head (sorry - couldn’t resist) then allow the manager to give you suggestions. </p>
<p>Someone once promised me when she got done my hair would be worthy of a Mississippi Beauty Pagent winner. It looked (and felt) like the cotton that grows in the Mississippi fields. After a week I went back and they refunded my money and conditioned it. Still couldn’t get a comb thru it for a while, but at least I had a refund.</p>
<p>NJres: I wish my face was a cute as Katie Couric’s. Alas, with this haircut I look more like Herman Munster. Stick a couple of bolts on my neck, and I’m ready for Halloween.</p>
<p>MDAP: There is NO WAY I am returning to this stylist or any stylist I’ve gone to in the last year. The stylist before this one cut my hair then used a curling iron to give me long ringlets. I will be 50 yo in a few months. The Shirley Temple look really isn’t for me. My DS laughed for 5 minutes when she saw my hair. At least I could work with the cut once I washed out the curling iron mess.</p>
<p>Do not pay too much attention to D’s laugh either. Mine always laugh at me for everything, not just hair, I still love her to death, she is coming for Labor Day weekend, yeee!</p>
<p>Have you considered shaving your head? Seriously. One of my friends who got tired of dying her hair decided to shave her head and start anew. She did this for her 50th birthday, and her teen-aged kids think she looks cool. She goes around with nothing on her head except scalp! She also works at a university.</p>
<p>I have also tried a few hair stylists over the last 30 years. I give up. For my son’s wedding someone taked me into having my hair colored and cut for the six months leading up to it because they swear it would look better. After spending countless hours and a ton of money, I decided I really could do it better myself. I now quit.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t have had the nerve to ask for my money back either. I even tip. But I’m never going back.</p>
<p>I think the problem when you bring in a picture is that you don’t have the hair of the person in the picture. But a hair stylist would rather take your money than tell you that.</p>
<p>I usually cut my own hair- but when I do have my hair cut- I always ask to be shown how to style it- it makes a difference.
If it is very harsh looking but cant be lightened up with layering i would suggest some highlights ( and low lights) to suggest more movement.</p>
<p>And for next time, always watch in the mirror what they are doing. If you don’t like it tell them to stop immediately and explain what they are doing. It is your head.
As a former stylist- pictures are helpful, but not that much.
More helpful is knowing what sort of lifestyle you lead and how much work you are interested in putting into your hair.
I have had asian girls with long coarse beautiful hair insist on looking like Farrah Fawcett.
While I permed & layered their hair- and instructed them on how to set it with hot rollers, they would have been much prettier IMO, if they had went with their hair tendency.
Very fine baby straight hair does well with a shorter cut ( but not too short if thin), unless you are prepared to use a ton of product on it every day.
What sort of hair do you have?</p>
<p>If I remember right, the Caesar haircut is what Herman Munster had, and while it is on the short side for many women, Dame Judi Dench has a version that is quite flattering on her.</p>
<p>Go on yelp or other review sites- find a salon that is rated highly and make an appt to show you how to style it in a way you can live with while it grows out.
With the new school year- you will soon be too busy to worry about it.</p>
<p>colmomto2, my last haircut, all I can say is, I wish I looked as good as Moe. I desperately need a haircut, but I am still experiencing post traumatic stress syndrome over the last one, lol! Seriously though, I took my dd for a haircut at a new place right before she went back to college. I shamelessly used her to test this new guy out. Her’s looks pretty good, so I’m going to give him a try.</p>
<p>emeraldkity4: I have baby fine hair that is medium thick. I let all the highlights grow out and am at my natural medium brown right now. My neck is long, my forehead is long, and my face is square. When my hair frames my face it seems to soften the hard lines and long features. With this cut, well, it ain’t pretty. She left it one layer at the top to just above my ears and layered the back really short up to meet the top above my ears. It stops at eye level and cuts my face in half. Seriously, think Moe. I could cry. </p>
<p>What do I do when I am in the shop and am unhappy with the cut? Do I say something then and there? Do I ask for the manager? Do I refuse to pay? I am really mad I paid this woman for this disaster.</p>
<p>Give it a day or two if you can stand it. Hair cuts never look right the first couple days. But I sympathize. The last time I asked for a stylish haircut, I came out looking like I had an octopus on my head. But that was my fault. The stylist warned me the cut wasn’t right for my hair.</p>
<p>No advice for colmom, but the story is exactly why, 3 years after moving, I’m still driving back to our old town to get my hair cut. It would be w-a-y too traumatic to find a new stylist. The guy I go to has been cutting my hair since before H & I were married.</p>
<p>Maybe you should try going to a barber.
“How would you like it?”
“Regular haircut. Not too short.”
“Tapered in the back?”
“I don’t know.”
That’s it. It might look just as bad, but it would be cheaper.</p>
<p>I would call the salon and ask to speak with the manager. I would explain the situation, ask for a refund, and ask for help in dealing with the result–help that did NOT include coping with the hair stylist that cut my hair.</p>
<p>I have had many bad hair cuts, partly because I have naturally curly hair. It has a mind of it’s own…</p>
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