Really, really considering being a rat against my idiot roommate..

<p>Okay, so I posted a while ago about this pain in the ass roommate who stores beer in the community fridge and is just a general pain in the ass. I did the trash four times in a row and decided I wasn’t doing it the next time. So the trash has just sat there with the exact same garbage in it for one month in the cabinet under the sink. Whatever, I use my own trash can since I change it much less frequently. The annoying thing is, though, is that this roommate is constantly leaving trash lying around wherever it was when they walked away and also tends to think it’s socially acceptable to fill grocery bags with trash and leave it in a corner on the counter. This is instead of taking out the trash. I don’t spend a lot of time around the room and when I do I’m rushing off to class/volunteer/club events/socializing so I left a really sincere, thoughtful note saying I’d really like us all to cooperate on the trash issue. I didn’t get a response; That was a couple of weeks ago. Well, today I woke up this morning and found the full trash bag in front of my door. I had to control myself to keep from knocking it over and doing something I’d regret, so I just placed it in front of the pita’s door. </p>

<p>Between this, waking up at 2am on weeknights and 8am on mornings I’m trying to sleep in because they have a loud voice and laugh like a little kid (I literally can’t hear anyone else over my loud fan), bringing strangers in who break stuff, being passive aggressive, using my stuff, being stupid enough to store beer in the suite fridge, and just being a white trash slob, I am tired.</p>

<p>I’m pretty sure that full trash can has beer cans taking up the entire bottom half of it. It always has whenever I’ve changed it. I’m considering just taking the trash and going to the RA, “Hey, it looks like there’s alcohol in here.” This is a dry campus. The only problem is, I’m morally against the idea of a dry campus restricting alcohol to 21 year olds and up. I also hate the idea of being a rat. I find tattling on someone for something self-harming like alcohol is morally egregious. I also don’t want that kind of reputation. However, I’ve talked to the RD about switching rooms over email anonymously because I hinted at the alcohol, but I stressed all the other problems. The RD only cared about the alcohol, and when I said I didn’t want to report that, he essentially told me to go away.</p>

<p>Please give me sound advice on this. I’m not trying to vent or complain, but I’m really fed up and seriously don’t know what to do. I might not report my roommate for alcohol because of my own personal morality system, but please don’t use that to say I deserve to deal with it then. Then again, I might report it. If you have sound, effective advice, I really, really need it.</p>

<p>I would actually report him. I also feel it’s somewhat wrong to rat on someone, but if they obviously don’t give a **** and refuse to cooperate with me, they’re really just asking for it. This kind of disrespect is just not cool, and I would not put up with it. Especially when you’re paying for the room too right?? As far as reputation goes, I wouldn’t care too much, just do what’s best for you, whatever people think is their problem.</p>

<p>I’d document some evidence of their drinking and other reckless habits. I’d then go and let them know to fix up their acts or you’ll be happy to arrange new roommates.</p>

<p>You will come off as a rat, but then go to hell if that is how mature they are.</p>

<p>I would confront him face to face, instead of leaving notes, so that at least you’ve TRIED to talk to him. And if Mr. Peanutbrain still doesn’t get it, then I would go to the RA. You can’t let him walk all over you like that.</p>

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<p>Actually, the thing that really sucks is, I confront and have even gotten visibly angry, and… I get apologies. Wt? I have no clue how to deal with somebody who’s two-faced and so damn passive aggressive.</p>

<p>don’t get angry with him, he probably gets a kick out of it. Talk him down with your normal voice, and point out all of his flaws.</p>