<p>My daughter, hs sr, turned 18 in August. She is no longer subject to a driving curfew, but it was 1:00am. We have not given her a set curfew, it depends on what she is doing. But she must keep in touch and text when she is on her way home. I am also always up when she gets home. And I agree about the sleepovers, can be big trouble!</p>
<p>Over 18’s - must call/text and tell us when they will be home, typically we expect them to be home by 1am. Also, they have to call/text if they are going to be spending the night somewhere. We’ve told them that if they are drinking, we’d rather they just spend the night than drive home. I don’t stay up, but I sleep with the phone next to the bed. </p>
<p>It’s just a courtesy and safety issue for us once they turn 18. We are more strict with our under 18’s.</p>
<p>CT also has a driving curfew. It sure made those after sports events parties (in the evening) end earlier! We live in a rural area and it was either have the parents come and pick you up (not cool at all) or leaving and driving yourself home on time.</p>
<p>I am surprised by many of the answers. I was expecting to hear there should not be a curfew for an 18 year old highschool senior based on a post I made way back.
When my kids were in highschool they needed to be home at 9:00 during the week (sons never went out during the week) and 12:00 on the weekends. If there was something really special going on all they had to do was call.</p>
<p>We never had a curfew for our 5 Ds. Mutual respect and consideration were required so that we knew where they were going to be and what time they’d likely be home, with communication if anything were to change. This worked well for us while they were in high school as well as when they were in college and were home for visits.</p>
<p>Never needed a curfew for D, but when she visits on college breakss I often have to text her about her whereabouts, and updates a her ETA.</p>
<p>Soon to be 18 son is MUCH more social, but he doesnt seem to hang out with drinkers, is very responsible, and fairly reasonable, so we can usually work things out on a case by case basis. Usually 10 on weeknights, 1 AM on weekends.</p>
<p>BTW, he does a lot of sleepovers, but we host a lot of them, and there is no sign of drinking involved, but a lot of gaming-could be because or why his friends tend to be a little younger than he is (mostly juniors).</p>
<p>t when she visits on college breakss I often have to text her about her whereabouts, and updates a her ETA.</p>
<p>We do this here too.</p>
<p>I had a 10:30 curfew in high school (a zillion years ago). It certainly didn’t stop me from doing a lot of things… I think absolute curfews are a mistake. I didn’t have them with my kids. Instead I had conversations: “when will you be home tonight?” “well, the concert’s over at midnight, would 1 be all right?” or “we’re going to see a movie, I should be back by 11.” If I thought they’re weren’t thinking clearly… more discussion ensued.</p>
<p>My parents always let me set the curfew.</p>
<p>Before I started driving, I was expected to be home at a reasonable hour (ie before about 10 PM) so that mom or dad could pick me up. I could come home later if I wanted, but I was expected to find my own way home. I wasn’t very social before I started driving, though, so this wasn’t really a problem.</p>
<p>After I started driving, my parents would ask me on the way out, “What time will you be home?”</p>
<p>Normally I’d tell them midnight, and if that turned into 1 or 2 AM, I was expected to call or text.</p>
<p>Now I don’t tell them so much when I’ll be home, but more where I’m going and who I’m going with. Most of the time we end up at someone’s house just talking or sitting around a fire pit in their backyard til all hours of the night. I will always tell them if I decide to spend the night somewhere.</p>
<p>^Sorry to digress, but how are you feeling about Sonoma State these days? Are you living on campus? Son applied a few weeks ago.</p>
<p>I’ll PM you Shrinkrap :)</p>