<p>I remember a while back there was a thread on the parent’s forum </p>
<p>Whoever has the most AP wins</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=97255[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=97255</a></p>
<p>On post # 49 Ben Jones (MIT admissions) wrote the following and I think that many of his peers involved in elite college admissions share the same sentiment:</p>
<p>**When faced with the choice, we will always choose "the right match" over numbers. We’re not lying when we say that. You’ve heard me beat that sentiment to death in other threads, so I won’t do so here.</p>
<p>(*Match = mission, collaborative spirit, hands-on, balance, character, and passion, among others.)</p>
<p>But the reality is that when you have 10,500+ applications for ~1000 spots and 70% of the pool has great numbers, your pool is going to have plenty of kids who have the passion and the match and the scores/grades/AP’s. So we admit those kids - what other choice do we have?**</p>
<p>**So when a parent says to me, “Why does HYPSM put so much emphasis on AP’s?” I reply “Why do you put so much emphasis on HYPSM?” When a parent says “My kid’s value as a person/student shouldn’t be measured by how many AP’s he/she has taken” I say “…and your kid’s value as a person/student shouldn’t be measured by whether or not he/she goes to HYPSM.” I could go on and on.</p>
<p>There are literally hundreds of amazing colleges and universities out there (some of which actually admit kids with no AP’s!). Many of them would actually be better matches for your child. Many of them would provide your child with a better education. Most importantly, many of them would ultimately give your child a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment. The right match will do that.</p>
<p>And the match goes both ways. We try to determine if your kid is a good match for MIT. Your kid should be trying to determine which school is the best match for him/her. As a parent, what are you doing to help him/her figure that out?</p>
<p>Here’s a hint: if you’re spending time obsessing that a lack of AP’s is going to keep your kid out of Stanford, you’re missing the point.</p>
<p>Make sure your kids are choosing their schools for the right reasons. Name, status, “brand” - these are not the right reasons. Let your kids be kids. Let them follow their hearts. Encourage them to have a present, not just a future. Don’t let them define themselves by which colleges accept them - and don’t let them define themselves by doing things only to get into certain colleges.</p>
<p>***</p>