<p>last night i got the news that i was rejected from the honors fraternity. i am upset because i put in so much work and met every single requirement they threw at me. i had to do 14 interviews with the brothers (im a girl, and its a co-ed honors fraternity), 2 alumni interviews, 1 interview with a brother outside my chapter, and 2 projects and a final exam that i had to get at least an 80 on (i got a 95). i already paid 140 plus 35 for an upcoming event that they were having. i even raised money for their philanthropy selling candles! the reason i was eliminated (as i found out from the person who was supposed to be my big) was that i asked for interviews incorrectly ( i said 'hi my name is _____, are you free for an interview?). none of the brothers told me what i was doing was incorrect, in fact during the interviews, we were laughing and joking the entire time! i am infuriated that i put in so much work only to be rejected in the end for some crappy reason. my big said that in the meeting, they said that they appreciated my hard work and she said that they had other strong points for me as well. but that doesnt mean anything if i was rejected for such a small reason. there is a mid-semester vote that they do in the middle of rush period to see who continues to rush and who doesnt and you had to have at least 7 interviews done by then. i obviously made it through that so im infuriated that they made me so all this work just to reject me in the end, when they could have saved me the trouble and kicked me out during mid-semester vote period. what should i do now? should i talk to them? approach them? i have them all on facebook since i added them when i got accepted into the rush period.</p>
<p>also fyi out of the class of 35, i was the only one who didnt make it. only ****ing one.</p>
<p>How ARE you supposed to ask for interviews then? I’m so scared now, that’s so crazy, because I want to rush for either an honors or business fraternity in the fall! Ahhhhh!</p>
<p>I’ve previously rushed for a Panhellenic sorority. Don’t know if it’s the same deal but my big and other friends I’ve made have told me if I ever wanted to rush for a sorority again, or the same one, to just keep contact with those people (bc I dropped). If you cut off contact and try to rush again, it’ll definitely negatively impact you. I’d be mad in your position as well but be on friendly terms with everyone from the fraternity. Maybe attend some of their events/fundraisers/philanthropies throughout the semester to show that you support them as well so there is no bad air and that they remember you.</p>
<p>P.S, also I don’t know if this applies to non-Panhellenic as well but we have a strict policy in telling people what happens during rush period, so be careful as to never get identified or don’t tell your friends (esp the untrustworthy ones).</p>
<p>I’ve seen girls rush for sororities like 3 times because they think being in a fraternity/sorority can be just that beneficial. But if you don’t plan on rushing again I don’t see why you need to even approach them, talk to them, or even keep any of them on facebook lol. </p>
<p>That really sucks though… I didn’t know rushing processes for honors fraternities could be so harsh</p>
<p>Forget them. Block them and start your own group or become a loner fighting for what you believe in. You don’t need them. </p>
<p>If you really want to get back at them, get a private investigator to get video/audio recordings of their dirt and illicit activities. Hell, I know a private eye in my area that does that for free, she really hates Greek Life.</p>
<p>She helped get a particular chapter of a fraternity in my city thrown out campus and the chapter was terminated.</p>
<p>Maybe you should ask a higher up in the fraternity why you weren’t told how to correctly ask for interviews after your first few. After all, this is a new process and you can’t be expected to know every in and out. Also, maybe seek out others from your class and see how they asked for interviews.</p>
<p>I would be weary of bringing up race right away. Just investigate a little more and see what you can come up with.</p>
<p>That’s ridiculous. Best advice is to just drop it and move on. They’re in the wrong, but their organization can easily dictate any inquiries or questions you may have and you may end up looking very bad if you make a big issue out if it.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry though, making look at other feats or take the opportunity to just focus on you.</p>
<p>That sounds totally unfair. Don’t start assuming things about your race-- I mean I guess you don’t know their true reasons besides the fact that you didn’t ask for an interview correctly. IMO that is a hard scummy thing to be rejected from. That’s fine, they lost a potentially spectacular candidate…which you seem to be, as you seem like a determined person.</p>
<p>Now they are telling me the 217 I made selling candles for their charity might have already been donated after I told them I wanted my money back.</p>