Rejected please help

<p>I still cannot believe that I got rejected. I told myself I wouldn't be bitter, but it's hard when 4 of my friends have been accepted, who are not even as truly involved in their activities as I am. I ****ing hate myself for my bitterness right now. I don't think I'm thinking straight. I just cried. I don't even know. What other schools should I apply to? I'm a mess right now. I just keep re-reading my letter thinking that it will change with each refresh....</p>

<p>what do you want to major in? and what type of school are you looking for?</p>

<p>Other schools I was going to apply to were:</p>

<p>Boston College
Georgetown
Notre Dame
Vanderbilt
USC
Villanova
Michigan
Butler</p>

<p>...if that helps at all</p>

<p>keep in mind that you are DEFINITELY going to be happy somewhere else. you definitely will, trust me.</p>

<p>says the two kids that get into duke...</p>

<p>Had my dad not gotten rejected to Harvard and Stanford, he wouldn't have gone to Cal and wouldn't have met my mom.</p>

<p>God planned this for a reason. You'll succeed in life. God has a plan for you.</p>

<p>says 3 ppl who were accepted.........
and im not religious AWKWARD</p>

<p>I was deferred so I don't feel bitter. But please know that one decision does not define you or your future. We all knew going into this that admissions to top schools is a crap shoot. After tonight, you need to pick yourself up and get ready to present your best application(s) to other schools. Don't let this sadness continue on and ruin your chances at other great schools.</p>

<p>As you may have read, I applied to Duke with a 28 ACT score. I am 99.99999% sure that I at least got a 30 (I'm thinking 32) on my December test. I am pretty confident that this is what held up my admission to Duke. Because if they didn't like the rest of my application, I would have been flat out rejected with that socre (I am white with no hooks).</p>

<p>BUT, I am not banking on anything for Duke admissions in March. I know I need to move on and apply to other schools.
I am applying to:
USC
Vanderbilt
Yale (relative is a tenured professor there and wants me to apply)
Stanford
Brown
Georgetown
Boston College</p>

<p>And I have already been accepted to my state flagship so I am fully prepared to happily attend there if I have to. I will not let decisions that are out of my control dictate my happiness and success in life.</p>

<p>You have to trust that everything happens for a reason. I know that sounds cliche but it is true. My dad went to his second choice school (because of parental pressure) but if he had gone to his first choice, I wouldn't be here.</p>

<p>Please keep your chin up and again don't let this define you. Getting into a school like Duke is like hitting the lottery. And we know the odds of that! And you are already successful in that you even have what it takes to even apply to Duke. You will end up happy somewhere, I promise you.</p>

<p>I am not sad and am not bitter. I didn't get in/got deferred and I am moving on. I will always have a fondness for Duke and who knows I may end up there for Grad school. But for now I am going to go create my happiness and future somewhere else. (:</p>

<p>Try not to be so bitter. They are trying to be helpful, whether they got accepted or not. I for one got rejected, and although I only applied to Duke to increase my chances with the ED thing (it wasn't actually my first choice), I'm still pretty upset. There are plenty of other great schools out there! And its ED so you still have time to apply to some top end universities for RD or EDII!! Be happy, its fate.</p>

<p>I was deferred so I don't feel bitter. But please know that one decision does not define you or your future. We all knew going into this that admissions to top schools is a crap shoot. After tonight, you need to pick yourself up and get ready to present your best application(s) to other schools. Don't let this sadness continue on and ruin your chances at other great schools.</p>

<p>As you may have read, I applied to Duke with a 28 ACT score. I am 99.99999% sure that I at least got a 30 (I'm thinking 32) on my December test. I am pretty confident that this is what held up my admission to Duke. Because if they didn't like the rest of my application, I would have been flat out rejected with that socre (I am white with no hooks).</p>

<p>Anyway, I am not banking on anything for Duke admissions in March. I know I need to move on and apply to other schools. I am applying to:
USC
Vanderbilt
Yale (relative is a tenured professor there and wants me to apply)
Stanford
Brown
Georgetown
Boston College</p>

<p>And I have already been accepted to my state flagship so I am fully prepared to happily attend there if I have to. I will not let decisions that are out of my control dictate my happiness and success in life.</p>

<p>You have to trust that everything happens for a reason. I know that sounds cliche but it is true. My dad went to his second choice school (because of parental pressure) but if he had gone to his first choice, I wouldn't be here.</p>

<p>Please keep your chin up and again don't let this define you. Getting into a school like Duke is like hitting the lottery. And we know the odds of that! And you are already successful in that you even have what it takes to even apply to Duke. You will end up happy somewhere, I promise you.</p>

<p>I am not sad and am not bitter. I didn't get in/got deferred and I am moving on. I will always have a fondness for Duke and who knows I may end up there for Grad school. But for now I am going to go create my happiness and future somewhere else. (:</p>

<p>Ok, sorry you're not religious... let me edit this post.</p>

<p>"Had my dad not gotten rejected to Harvard and Stanford, he wouldn't have gone to Cal and wouldn't have met my mom.</p>

<p>Your fate planned this for a reason. You'll succeed in life. Your fate has a plan for you."</p>

<p>Better?</p>

<p>Try not to forget that admissions to these top tier institutions is very "selective" and in saying "selective" I mean that for the most part everyone who applies is qualified and falls within the accepted stats for that school. It is the admissions department who is reading the applications who are trying to form a class. If you do not get into your first choice it could be that you are really not a perfect "fit" for that school and had you gotten in you would not have loved it as much as you think. BUT the lucky ones of you will only be accepted somewhere you "fit" and then you will be VERY happy. Unfortunately I know you now have to wait until late March to shrug off the bad feeling you have right now but trust me it will go away and you will get in somewhere fantastic. :) Try to shrug it off right now if you can.</p>

<p>sry about this annoying post........ i'm a bit more calmed down now. but still bursted out crying in school today omg embarrassing.</p>

<p>i guess what is really ****ing me of is that two of the four ppl who got in at my school do not deserve it. the other two totally do!!!! its just that those two ppl are known to be cheaters and i have personally seen them cheat ever since middle school, but they just havent been caught yet and it makes me so mad that they are taking the two acceptance spots of two other well deserving applicants out there</p>

<p>Can you please stop being a sore loser? I got rejected from my top choice last year but I didn't go around complaining and crying to people who can't do anything about it. What's done is done. Just move on. I understand your disappointment but none of us can change anything.</p>

<p>Cornetking222,</p>

<p>Please be more agreeable with people who are having a difficult time coping with having been declined. When you write on these forums, you represent Duke, more specifically you represent the Class of 2015. Even if people are not Blue Devils on paper, they may be Blue Devils at heart. We do not treat our own with disrespect and intolerance. Clearly, this girl is distraught. Give her the respect and space so that she may pick herself up, dust herself off, and move forward with more vigor than before. I'm not asking you to understand as everyone works differently; I am asking you to respect her. If you have nothing beneficial to tell her, restrain yourself from posting. This is not to say that your advice is not beneficial, but it's delivery and connotation are that of disrespect and narrow-mindedness.</p>

<p>Thank you.</p>

<p>^ UPVOTE.</p>

<p>anyways, in the end, it's not worth being bitter and sad about. Plenty of deserving kids will get rejected and plenty of not deserving kids will be accepted; life's not fair, accept it. No matter what, there's tons and tons and tons of other awesome colleges out there, and when you do pick a school and attend there, you'll look back and think, 'I'm glad I didn't get into to Duke because I'm now at this awesome place', okay?</p>

<p>@ OP: I'm very sorry to hear about the news. That's very unfortunate that those other 2 students who have character issues have been accepted into Duke. Cheating only takes you so far in life, and they will likely get caught if they continue doing so at Duke.</p>

<p>I've spent my time at two peer institutions (Rice and Duke) over the past 5 semesters, and I've realized that it does not matter where you go but what you do with the opportunities given to you. There are TONS of fabulous colleges and universities out there; I wish I gave more consideration to LACs when I was a high school senior. Also, do not think you can only be happy at Duke. There are many students here who are not completely happy because it isn't the best fit for them. Although I am glad that I am here, Duke was quite different than I imagined it being. Fit is more important than a college's name, so you need to apply to schools that will fit you best, academically and socially, but also challenge you. Personally, I would have stayed at Rice if the institution had a stronger environmental sciences program... the quality of life there is quite high and all the other students are friendly. Because you are interested in engineering, I would add Rice to your list; its engineering and sciences programs are top-notch. Here's the link to their admissions page: Future</a> Owls. Don't let the supplement scare you. Also, there is a virtual viewbook on the left hand corner of the admissions website. Feel free to PM me if you have more questions about Rice.</p>

<p>From here on out, do not view college as a prize to be won, but as a fit to be made. That's what my college counselor told me during senior year of high school. There are hundreds of other colleges out there; I know for sure that many of them will fit you better. Go through your list of schools and determine if they a) have a strong program in your intended area of study or a wide variety of programs if you have wide interests b) have a campus culture that you would enjoy (i.e. is Greek life huge? is it in a major city? how is the student body?). To help you with refining the list of schools you are applying to, go through sites such as uni go.com and college *******.com to get student reviews in addition through using information from college admissions websites/viewbooks.</p>

<p>If you thought you were good enough to get Duke ED then your def good enough to get into sone other really good colleges. Everything happens for a reason; you'll figure out that reason eventually. In the meantime, start applying to other schools and don't let one rejection discourage you.</p>

<p>omg.. i wish i could delete threads on collegeconfidential. i rly was just devastated since it was only the day of and after results came out but now i'm okay. i'm looking into other schools and am sort of glad to be out of the ED bind, although im still insanely jealous of my two friends who got in and still mad about the other two which is not being a sore loser... seriously i have just about five other people i personally know that deserve to go to duke more than those certain two. its sad how in college admissions dishonest ppl can pay their way to the college. anyway, thanks thebluedevil! i rly love all your supportive posts here on CC :)</p>

<p>You're very welcome. That's what I'm here for, to support and inform Duke-curious high schoolers and their parents! Stay strong, and best of luck in the future.</p>

<p>sliknik also was very eloquent. Mother of a Duke 09er, and a Vandy 13er. I have to say that Rice University is one of the greatest colleges in the USA, and we love the culture of that place with the Residential Colleges and no Greek scene..it is a great cross between a mega research institution and a great LAC in a very amiable part of Houston. And although Duke son Bleeds Blue, and Duke has a good alum culture as well, he did NOT get it "all" at Duke. Great LACs can often deliver more power in the classrooms, great learning environments and great outcomes in graduate schools. A close friend turned down Chancellors full tuition at Vandy, Harvard, Wash U, money at Kenyon and many other wonderful offers to take a position at Davidson where she is getting magnificent teaching and living in a community of like minded people who are serious students. She knows her teachers in general far more than Vandy or Duke son does..No school is All That. Sympathy to all of you. One of my son's cried when he got a rejection letter from his crush college.... so it is perfectly normal that you "attached" to Duke. You are psychologically healthy to show that attachment, and it is weird to detach now and date other colleges but get to it. Freshen your minds and open your hearts.</p>