Relationship advice

<p>I've thought about this for some time, and finally decided to post this here to get some new insights and some advice. </p>

<p>Ok so I've liked this guy from my school for 4 or 5 years now. We take about the same classes and are in pretty much the same afterschool clubs/activities/competitions. We talk and IM, but it's always about school work. We've taken the same science class for the past 2 years, so when there's a lab due, we both stay up really late working on the lab and asking each other questions on IM. We went to prom together, but he asked me at the last minute (the day before the last day the tickets were being sold) and that too on IM. I don't know what to make of that. He's one of those guys who are really smart and aiming to get into Ivys, and he doesn't seem to have any close friends who are girls.
I really like the guy and thought about telling him how I feel, but I don't want him to feel or act awkward around me if he doesn't feel the same way.
So, should I still tell him? and how do I find out if he feels the same way about me?</p>

<p>I've got only one year left to be in the same school as him, so I want to make it count.
Thanks :)</p>

<p>When you're on your death bed thinking back to these years in high school, how do you want to remember yourself acting? Taking a risk of rejection or being too afraid to act and be left wondering what could have been?</p>

<p>honestly the hardest part is getting to know someone and having them know you on a more personal level. It seems you guys at least do, and the next step is to ask him to hang out some. If it goes well and you still feel this way about him, and maybe if he had a lot of fun then tell him. Especially if you've liked him for 4/5 years... all it takes is a simple question.</p>

<p>@ApatheticLove: that's a good point. But it would really help if I could just find out how he feels.</p>

<p>@Seahawks506: from as much as I know him till now, he only hangs out with his guy friends, playing sports (and I'm not that great at sports lol)</p>

<p>Then tell him how you feel. He will either reciprocate or he won't. Then you'll know.</p>

<p>Does he compliment you often? Ask him if he likes you, that alone will probably tell him that you like him. That being said, I just watched 500 days of summer and it's convoluting my thinking process. In all of the relationships I've been in, with one exception, it started out with the girl asking me whether or not I liked her. He's probably just really shy and he asked you to prom late because he meant to seem aloof about everything.</p>

<p>ApatheticLove That's a ***** question to ask, my friend :D
Though IMHO you'd better regret for something that you did, than feeling miserable for the next few years in asking yourself what would his answer be. Good luck :)</p>

<p>@Jannevruzi: thanks :)</p>

<p>@cobftw: no he doesn't compliment me, but then again he doesn't compliment any other girl either. yeah I guess he might be shy. It seems like a good idea to ask him if he likes me, but now I have to figure out how to ask him without being awkward haha</p>

<p>any suggestions?</p>

<p>Overall, I say go for it for the reasons other people said, but I have a better idea if possible:</p>

<p>Is there any way to subtly find out how he feels about you? If you're friends, presumably you know some of the guys that he might talk to about girls.</p>

<p>You could go around it and ask a friend of his but it is easier just to do it yourself. I know how you feel because I don't like asking guys that either. You could try and talk about other stuff and flirt a little and see how he responds and base it off of that. If nothing works though, I would tell him and then ask because you don't want to waste your senior year! I know how you feel, I am going to be a senior too. He must have a little interest if you two have kept a friendship this long. Good luck:)</p>

<p>@CranberryOrange: that would be ideal if I could just subtly find out. But if I ask any of his friends, they might end up making a big deal out of it and then telling him. Too many people would get involved</p>

<p>@ozzy3331: that makes sense. i guess i'll try that and see how it goes</p>

<p>thanks guys!
(feel free to say anything more if you want to)</p>


<p>Yep, no problem:)</p>