<p>Emeradlkitty, you said,</p>
<p>I don’t BELIEVE he is “the” one- frankly- but he is the one I married and he is the one I have the commitment to.</p>
<p>BELIEVING:
This is the difference between believing and thinking, to me; anyone can intellectually think to be true whatever they want to think, depending on their interests; that there is or is not a god, for instance; that this or that way of knowing god is the best way (remember Descartes dictum: there is no idea too absurd that there is not an intellectual somewhere who will adopt it). </p>
<p>But as I understand it, you can only actually and sincerely believe one thing is in fact true at any one time. You cannot simultaneously believe the opposite thing is also true (the law of non-contradiction, perhaps). For instance, as you say, you dont believe he is the one but rather he is the one you married and he is the one I have the commitment to. Not belief.</p>
<p>“sexual attraction” made me THINK that I was in love</p>
<p>THINKING:
I know nothing about your marriage or love life, and I have nothing but respect for it, but you do write that you dont believe he is he one but that “sexual attraction” made me think that I was in love. This is accordingly the difference between believing, which relies on an inner intuitive sense of truth, and thinking, which involves a weighing of interests.</p>
<p>I don’t really see how this relates to religion</p>
<p>FAITH:
To me, it relates in this way: religion relies on belief, not the better of different options or choices or theories of thought. If someone is a Baptist, by faith, it is extremely unlikely that I will be able to show them what I believe to be the beauty of Sufism and have them BELIEVE Sufism is the TRUTH inasmuch as they will actually BELIEVE it. They may find it fascinating, even beautiful at an intellectual/romantic level but it is highly unlikely that they will be able to rationally alter their belief to the degree that they will no longer be Baptist and become a believing Sufi. If it happens, it will involve other and deeper feelings.</p>
<p>Although belief in a religion is not the same as belief in God, I dont really believe in my religion per se, I participate in my religion in order to better understand the God Im drawn to through love.</p>
<p>I believe True-Love is the same way. Whether the love of another Human being or the Love of God. Belief is too powerful to be considered an opinion or a choice; it certainly involves thinking but it neither begins nor ends there.
I know it is uncommon, but the first time my father saw my mother he turned to his best friend and said I hope to marry her referring to my mother. Obviously they married and Ive never seen two people more in love than my parents
7:30 AM lambada in the backyard
after all these years;) It would probably be difficult for either of my parents to say that there ‘lover’ is the objectively best of all ‘lovers’ in the world, but I think they have faith and an abiding belief that there’s is the best in all the world.</p>
<p>Love=faith=belief</p>
<p>All three are necessary for a glimpse of the transcendent in the Beloved
even if only in art.</p>