Baby wants out. Trying to dig it’s way out. Tell it just has a few more months. ?.
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For folks interested, I have the link and am happy to PM it as well. Some of us are thinking of a combined gift to the little Jedi if folks want to be a part of it.
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Regarding waiting to see the baby before the final decision. It’s not just physical appearance, seeing a child then attaching the name means feeling it is right for the person, not wanting a name and getting somebody to take it.
It will be interesting for you to discover nicknames used along the way- added or changes. As an aunt I was the last to hear about dropping the -ie diminutive, I still was called by the -ie for my name well into middle age by my aunt. I had dropped it after kindergarten or so.
We chose a solid, common name for our son because of our unusual last names. It turned out the name we both liked had connections to both sides- his American first name and Indian middle one did it. Currently- when asked son doesn’t care if addressed by given or nickname- he always seemed to want given name in HS. As his parent I want to go by his preference.
Congratulations! Your baby is now phasing into the mature lung stage even if events happen soon. Huge differences. The suck reflex at 34 or so is not as big a deal. Things you learn when you need to, not for medical exams…
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Please PM me or @HImom if you would like information on celebrating Baby.
Also, please PM me or @collage1 if you’re interested in considering a group gift. Thanks! Very exciting times! I love babies and we’re super-fond of @romanigypsyeyes and Mr R and little Jedi.
@MaineLonghorn You mentioned repeat names within a family; we have that also! It has become a family joke that when the younger generation dates, if the person has a name already assigned to a family member, they need to change their name! My nephew, brother in law, son in law, and cousin all share the same name; let’s just say M. When talking about one of them, someone will always say, do you mean my M or your M? Niece and cousin have the same name, cousin and another cousin’s son share a name, and lastly, my uncle and nephew have the same name. While a few of these people live in different states, we are all very close, so conversations are always in question. That said, when my aunt gets names confused, after she calls someone by a thirds name, most likely she used a name that is correct! 
Love this name discussion! My D and SIL initially had considered a different R name as possible for either gender–Rowan, but then when GD was born (didn’t know apparent sex till birth) they couldn’t decide between that and a family name. Ultimately decided on the family one, with a slightly more Irish spelling than the first two in the family.
My name used to be more common for men, according to the earlier posted graph, and my D’s has moved more to men since she got it. I like the inbetween ones.
Incidentally, regarding weird nicknames, by uncle was named Axxxxx Pxxxxx but called Jimmy his whole life (A and P being two frequently used family names). I have the same Pxxxxx middle name, as does/did my grandfather, mother, cousin, brother, daughter, granddaughter, and a bunch of others.
And yes, Ren is great!
For anyone interested in possibly participating in a group gift for Ren (baby Jedi), please PM me by this weekend, so we can coordinate. We currently have a growing group text in the PM.
Similarly, happy to share the baby registry link for anyone interested in that.
@garland Is there a Scottish component to your family? My grandfather was always called Jimmy by his sister (his name is not close).
When we were touring Scotland our driver, Jimmy, said it is often a term of endearment or used when you don’t know someone’s name —you just call him Jimmy.
In Hawaii, folks are respectfully and fondly called aunty and uncle, even if there’s no family connection rather than sir or ma’am.
@Gatormaam --as far as I know, none. A relative somewhere thought it was fitting for some reason (uncle was a JR with the same Axxxx Pxxx name as his father – my grandfather-- who went with a name that was also not Axxxx, but a weird nickname from the middle name.)
Two stories: the name of my uncle and grandfather started with “Al” but when my mom was a teen, someone called their house and asked for Al, and mom said there was no one there with that name–neither ever went with any version of it.
Also, my uncle Jimmy give in and named his son James. I mean, it was inevitable.
Love it!!
My S has NEVER to our knowledge gone by a nickname, only by his full given name (think “Robert”j. One day, when he was a young teen, he got a phone call from a male who asked to speak to nickname (think “Rob”). Puzzled, I said, sorry, there’s no one here by that name. The young man apologized and hung up. Shortly thereafter, another phone call to speak again with “Rob.” Suddenly the light dawned that this person wanted to speak to S, Robert! I apologized and said that I never referred to him by that nickname and didn’t know they really wanted to speak to a Robert!
S’s GF now also calls him “Rob.”
I have 2 sons. 1 I named with no intention of using a nickname. The other I never intended to call by the full name.
Now they are both adults, and the one I call the formal name uses mostly the nickname, and the one I call the nickname uses the formal name. He started with his formal name when he changed schools and his teacher started out calling him his formal name. He didn’t correct him, so his new friends called him that too. Now only old friends and family call him the nickname. His serious girlfriend has said she may start calling him the nickname, but so far doesn’t.
I know a family where three generations have the same name Robert. The eldest is called Bob, the next Bobby, and the youngest Robert. Fourth generation is on its way (due in May) I wonder if they will use Robert and what they will use as a nickname.
My husband’s family has done the alternating of first and middle names for sons for many generations - (not the real names) my husband is John Paul, his father was Paul John, his grandfather was John Paul, etc. I was so happy to have a girl and break the tradition!
I have a similar experience to @HImom with S1. DH and I have always called him by his formal name (think Robert), but his friends from HS on have always called him by his shortened name (think Rob). It’s especially strange when we’re together with DIL and her family who all call him by the shortened name. I find myself wondering who they’re talking about.
Professionally he uses his formal name, but in social situations he uses his shortened name. When he emails us or sends us cards, he signs them with his formal name.
His daughter now has a name that can be shortened, but he and DIL use the formal name and don’t like the shortened name. It will be interesting to see if history repeats itself as she gets older.
We always called D by her nickname but when she went to HS, she suddenly started using her full name. The only people who call her by her nickname now is family. I think her full name is wonderful but it has a totally different feel to me. I only used it when I was angry ; ).