<p>what do you guys do about the roomates dont leave the dorm? </p>
<p>Whether it is me bringing the girl over to my dorm or me going over to her dorm for the night, how do you guys get the roomaes to leave or get the message that should leave?</p>
<p>i know its not right to kick them out but i do want privacy unless they want to watch us.</p>
<p>If they don’t get the hint after 20 minutes or so of you guys sitting really close, touching, kissing a little, etc., start getting a little friskier. It’s their own fault for not picking up on the hints in the first place (assuming, as I hope you would, that you would leave if the roommate brought someone over as well), and if there starts to be a little bit of action going on in front of them (no nakedness yet!) then they should be sufficiently uncomfortable enough to grab their laptop and say, “er, I’m going downstairs to study” or something. Make sure one of you lets them know when it’s safe to come back though. Nothing p*sses a roommate off more than being stranded in the lobby for 3 hours, but nothing is worse for you than being walked in on! Send them a text or something.</p>
<p>thanks for the idea. i kind of wish i had a single sometimes.</p>
<p>Do you really want to hear from this fencersmother about this topic? Of course, you will not kick your roommate out since he is also paying for the room. This is why motels were invented. (just kidding)</p>
<p>Have you talked to your roommate about it. Did you guys establish rules about guests? If not you should really do that. Like some guys down the hall have “happy weights” basically its two 40-pound weights in front of the door. So if one tries to come in and can’t open the door due to the weights they know the other is with someone.</p>
<p>Get a single instead… ><em>> <</em><</p>
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<p>That’s what I did, anyway. Works wonderfully. Only wish the bed was bigger. Can’t get everything, though.</p>
<p>Um… if your roommate is socially awkward or something and never leaves his room, that might be a big problem. If he’s cool, though, then just tell him upfront. As far as making sure he doesn’t enter the room, the cliche rubber band on the door handle works. Or a sock. Or if you have a door that has one of those white boards on it, just write on it that you have your hands full at the time.</p>
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Heh, “happy weights”… I haven’t heard that one before, that’s a nifty idea.</p>
<p>im not sure if the situation changes if your roommate never leaves the room, but just try to talk to him or her. if you feel awkward bringing it up straight out just talk about a policy for guests first and segway into it.</p>
<p>me and my roommate have a codeword to write on our wipeboard if one of us is in here with a guy, thats what most of my friends here do. texting is also deinfetly a good one to use… before you get in your room and busy just send a text with your codework or just bluntly saying dont come back for 2 hours of whatever.</p>
<p>anything is better than being walked in on, or being the one to walk in on your roommate so just set things up now</p>
<p>I agree with fencesmother: You get a hotel room. Your roommates did pay for the room, and deserve to be able to use it. </p>
<p>Or you wait until your rooommates have romantic partners, too, and then you work out ways of giving each other privacy. Or you make arrangements to use the room privately when your roommates are in class or are in other activities. Just make sure your roommates know how you’ll be using the room so they don’t return early and surprise you.</p>
<p>Don’t be a brat about it. It’s really annoying for a roommate if s/he has work to do and s/he gets kicked out of the room. Try adjusting your schedule for meeting up with your significant other, so that it coincides with your roommate’s class times or if they go home for the weekend. Guests can be really obnoxious. Both of my roommates bring over guests and it can be very annoying if I need to get dressed or something. Bringing in members of the opp. sex for overnight stays (sex or not) is inappropriate in my opinion. There is a reason dorm rooms are not co-ed. Get a motel room for that.</p>
<p>If you’ve worked out something with your roommate about guests, that’s great, but especially if you aren’t staying overnight and just want a couple of hours of privacy, you might not even need to. The best way to handle it would be to have the person whose roommate needs to leave (either you or her) sometime before the significant other gets there, mention to them that you’d like to be alone for a bit.</p>
<p>For example, my roommate’s boyfriend came over last week, and she just told me, “hey, is there some time this evening where you could be out of the room for a couple of hours so I could have some privacy with Sam?” Generally if you give them some flexibility, notice, and don’t expect anything unreasonable (kicking your roommate out when he has a huge paper due and a final the next morning isn’t so great) they’ll be willing to work with you. Even with a roommate, everyone deserves a little privacy.</p>
<p>Just don’t **** off your roommate.</p>
<p>I had a friend whose roommate would daily kick out him out so his girlfriend (who went to a nearby school but lived at home) could come over. They would have sex, and then she would nap naked in the room for a few hours. During this time, it was expected that my friend would stay clear. His schoolwork was starting go down the drain and the girl was starting to move in clothes and such and staying late into the night.</p>
<p>So one night, the roommate didn’t say that the girlfriend would be over so my friend walked in on them. So, he was ****ed off and he walked out- but left the door open. The two were trapped in bed under a teeny blanket, yelling at people to close the door- but the whole hall sided with my friend and refused. It was great.</p>
<p>You could always ship your girlfriend to me, I have my own room and wouldn’t bind lessening the load.</p>
<p>be careful about kicking your roommate out. i frankly wouldn’t accept being sexiled when im in my room doing my stuff. i’m gone all day and need the room to sleep or have a bit of quiet time at the end. i also would never sexile my roommate.</p>
<p>there are a million other places you can go… the gf or bf’s room, a car in a deserted area, a restroom, an empty office, the woods, and much more.</p>
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<p>is it for sex? :p</p>
<p>and what are your roommates doing?</p>
<p>I would not leave the room. If they want to have sex there, I will make it as uncomfortable as possible, and hopefully they would do it elsewhere. You have to stick up for what’s yours, the room is half/half.</p>
<p>but come on? never leaving the room? that’s just not fair. tell your roommate to get a social life.</p>
<p>^I would tell you to get real and stop sounding like you’re 12.</p>
<p>My god you guys its just sex. Chill out. I’m sure at some point you’ll want to be alone, it doesn’t have to be for the whole night. Just get the nooky out of the way early in the night and then sleep platonically and clothed there after. The roommate can come back for that part.</p>
<p>do it while your roommate is in class</p>