<p>Okay, I have a friend (we’ll call him Bob) over who frequently comes over. My roommate (we’ll call him Joe) gets into a discussion with him concerning about politics (uh oh). Joe insinuates that Bob is a hardcore Republican (he’s a Democrat), solely based on his demographic background (from middle of nowhere small town). Bob gets upset, I get sick of talking about Politics with Joe (very narrow-minded), we leave.</p>
<p>I get back, Bob goes home, and I Joe that “Bob is mad at you for stereotyping him”. Joe tries to apologize over Facebook saying he was “joking around” (he wasn’t, this was one of those non-sarcastic slips where truth comes out). Bob states that “you’re missing the point, you’re stereotyping me.” Joe says “screw him, he’s not welcome in my house anymore”.</p>
<p>Part of me realizes that Joe is completely wrong here in his actions, has no right to tell me who I can bring over to the place (when they are friends and have good intentions) where I split rent. The other part thinks that I shouldn’t do anything that makes Joe feel uncomfortable. </p>
<p>I agree with AUlostchick, Joe sounds like a ■■■■■■.
On the other hand, I think that next time you invite Bob over, also invite at least one other friend, but after that one time(make sure your roommate is there for that one time to socialize as well) you can bring Bob over whenever. Unless Joe is a real small man(right now, we can all tell he’s a bit immature), the other people being over will make him fine with Bob there and he won’t make a scene, whereas if he walks around and sees Bob alone, he might ask, “What is he doing here? I’m a ■■■■■■, I told you he’s not allowed!” Afterwards, since Bob came over and everything went fine(hopefully), he can’t argue later on that Bob is not allowed over. Its longwinded, but you see what I’m getting at? Its kinda a method that’s usually used on small kids to resolve differences.</p>
<p>This is a lot of strong judgment based on one side of the story.</p>
<p>Talk–calmly–with your roommate. If things happened exactly as you described, then I agree that it seems petty and unfair. But maybe there’s more going on, or maybe Joe just needed a chance to cool down. If he’s still upset, perhaps you can strike a compromise. In the future, if you bring Bob over and Joe is hanging out in the living room, find another room. You have the right to bring your friends into your home, but Joe also has the right not to be made to feel uncomfortable in his home. Regardless of who’s in the right or wrong, the two of you still have to live together, and a “screw you” attitude isn’t going to make that easy.</p>
<p>At some point, Bob should also realize who he’s dealing with and adjust, rather than provoke.</p>
JK.</p>